would you like some WHINE with that cheese? my rant...

lindasuk

Two things are irratating me today. I must complain that I spent a lot of money on stamps for people NOT to send back their RSVP cards. How hard is it to mark the card "not attending" and stick it in the post? I'm not a wedding expert but even if i'm not going to someone's wedding, I still know to reply. I had a really good friend and his family say from the very beginning that they would be attending our wedding. Today he called and said that they would not be going. I spent 30 minutes consoling him and trying to make him feel better that he wasn't going anymore. Seriously? I said from the very beginning that no one was obligated to attend the wedding. No hurt feelings, nothing. We knew it would cost a lot of money. But i'm kind of mad that I had to sit on the phone and make him feel better. Maybe i'm a little on edge because the wedding is coming up. ugh!!

carrieoz_76

I'm sure it's frustrating not to get RSVP's back. However, I'm *horrid* with RSVP's myself. I'll respond - by text, email, facebook message, etc. But I hardly ever send the RSVP back. I'll fill out the RSVP, then leave it in my purse forever, and always forget to drop it in the mail. I'm still a good person. Please forgive the ppl like me! As for the guest - I've already done that a bit (consoled ppl who can't come), which is hard for me b/c it still stings that they can't make it. It totally sucks to have to buck up, but good on you for doing it!

aggiem

I TOTALLY know what you mean, this happened to me too.  It's not that hard to mark a check box and drop a prepaid postcard in the mail or send one little email!!  In fact less than half the people actually replied.  So we had to call most people to get their answers (and these include people who already booked their flights! geez, let us know you're coming!).  And then a lot of people forgot to mark their meal choices.  Out of anything in the wedding this has been the most stressful for me, so I sympathize fully with you girl!

BoBride28

yup, dealing with the RSVPs right now. its a pain! we have a line for people to write down their name and several people did not do it. thank goodness we numbered each response card and have a list so we can double check. i'm going to have to be making a lot of calls too!

TFMA

I totally can relate!  We are getting married in 14 days on Kauai (still freaks me out to say that, so soon!)  My FI best friend of 25 years, who is playing Slack Key guitar for the ceremony and who lives in Honolulu, doesn't think he can make it.  He doesn't want to pay $109 for a hotel room and his wife told him she has to work so the kids are his responsibility (another excuse, she isn't very nice) so he isn't coming.  Great, my FI is "bummed" and we have no music!!!    On the other hand there are people that we thought for sure wouldn't come and they are.  Thats a great thing.  As for the RSVP's only half sent them back in the stamped envelope.  I am doing a lot of deep breathing and trying to remember that we are doing this for US nobody else.Hang in there!Beth

inamra

Yeah, I know what you mean. That's why we actually only gave e-vites (online) for those who we KNEW weren't gonna send back the RSVP card (mainly all of DH's friends who are engineers, who even REQUESTED to just have some online invite b/c they'll just lose or toss aside the cards). I guess it's frustrating b/c then some ppl, like close family members either closeby, out of state or far away, won't send back their cards either b/c they just assume that we know they're coming for sure. But I don't like to assume that they will show up and it would've been nice to get my stamps used =P

kaesha

I think the rsvp thing is a pretty common complaint! We had a lot of venting about it over on Aug '09!

SkyyBC

Yeah, I am going to have to start hounding people soon as well.  I am NOT looking forward to that. 

Snarling Fox

Ugh.. I know how annoying that is to not get  your rsvp cards back. We're finally finishing up ours. There were a quite a few people who said they were coming and then never sent back the card until we called. We built in a few extra weeks as a buffer just in case. Our rsvp date was Aug 1, and only now, we're just figuring out what our final count will be. Good thing our caterer needs the final, FINAL count 2 weeks out. These people are such a pain!!