1 month out- VENT

diorgrl8

just got a call from dear mom and seems like she invited two of HER friends to our wedding without my knowledge and low and behold, they just booked their flights and hotel...wonderful. I don't even know these people, and she expects me to "squeeze them in". it's pretty upsetting how she did this behind my back as if this was her wedding..so wrong.Just had to vent since i guess i have to have them attend now that they are confirmed! I don't get why they'd even want to attend a wedding of someone they've never met. I was hoping for friends and family only...but i guess mom took it to mean HER friends too. UGH.

machan2010

Yikes, I can understand why you are not happy! Good for you though, just rolling with it since they already booked flights. Hopefully you won't even notice them on your day! Hang in there!!!

REM2008

I would be upset too!  I would tell your mom not to invite any additional people unless she's paying for them.  Its your wedding not hers.  Hang in there!

LilSwtAzyn

I totally know how you feel!!! But what done is done. Just take a deep breath, you can let your mom know how hurt you are or upset you are if you need to get it off your chest, smile, move on, and be happy you're getting married in a month!!! Its one small thing that will go wrong and you won't even notice on the day of your wedding!

maui2011

So sorry to hear that...that so sucks.  I would mos def let her know in a nice way of course not to do it again cuz next time you may not be so nice plane ticket or not...just my 2 cents.  In the end you probably won't won't even notice them and your mom has a lil somethin somethin to show her friends. Hang in there!!! J.

simmy89

Hey Hannah, thats tough, but you are handling it well. There is probably nothing you can do now espically as you are not going to want bad vibes building between you and the family this close to the wedding. I do think I would say a little something though so that she doesnt invite any one else. As far as the day you wont even notice them you will be to busy with your friends and family. Simone

kaesha

Okay, you know what I would honestly do? Tell her you hope they have a great time on vacation, but unfortunately it's impossible for you to fit them in due to a) venue restrictions, b) guest count deadlines that have already passed with caterers c) moral indignation. Let HER deal with the fallout because it's her responsibility.

carrieoz_76

Alyson throws down! My inclination would be to do the same, but I'd probably cave just to keep the peace at such a late date. I agree, though, that you should have a little talk with mom about the fact that THIS IS TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE, and leave it at that.

diorgrl8

oh alyson, trust me, that was exactly my first instinct...have fun in hawaii but you can't come to our wedding! but knowing my mom, i'd rather save the drama and deal with it. hopefully they come baring gifts!! but yeah, it's very frustrating...on much better news...We leave for HAWAII in exactly one month today! woo hoo!

mauidandy

Hannah that makes me so mad for you, because I know how you feel...when I was sending out my Save the Dates, my FMIL demanded that FI add her best friend and her husband to the guest list. We barely know them! I protested, but he wanted to keep the peace because she's been trying to fight with him about everything lately. Sigh. Just try to forget about it, you'll be surrounded with family and friends the whole day anyway!

KKakes

Oh no. It sucks, but these things can happen. Just take a deep breath (a long runs helps to bent too!!) and then do what you have to do to work them in. It is SO annoying, so just get it over with so you can focus on all the fun because you are ALMOST THERE!! yay!

burichan

Sucks! My mom tried that one on me too. I said no before she even asked. The craziest part about it is... why would someone want to go to someone's wedding they never met? I'd feel so out of place and just grinning and bearing it. I will never understand that! Anyway Sorry girl that sucks!

enteringparadise

I would let her know that you are not happy with what she has done and not to invite any more. Even if YOU are paying, its YOUR day. If parents are paying, unfortunately it becomes a tougher issue.

tifani27

I hear ya ladies but I think on the other side we need to realize that as brides we think this day is all about us but we need to keep in mind that this is a HUGE event for our parents too! I was getting all huffy about my mom and inviting her friends too until my recently married friend told me she went through the same thing and then finally realized that this is a huge thing for our parents too and they want to show us off and all that too! I totally get your frustration, 2 more guests just added last week for me too and I am only 5 weeks away. But I think you just gotta roll with it and realize that these things won't even bother you on the day of because you'll be gorgeous and happy!

HappyGoLuckyGal

Major bummer on the unexpected guests. But, on a happier note, I'm getting so excited for you. I can't believe your date is almost here.

inamra

Eek! Can't believe they booked everything before anyone even verified it with you! Yeah, well, at least most of the guests are still family and friends so you probably don't have to worry about them being there too much because you still get to spend your day with those closest with you and that's what matters the most Plus, you'll have a beautiful wedding and in the end, what you'll remember most is all the good memories of your big day!! So just breathe--you'll be married soon!!