Pictures of Granparents and Parents on Their wedding Day

shan87

Forgive me for the lack of creativity with the Subject line.

I am in the midst of brainstorming this idea. I really like the idea of having pictures of other Family Members on their wedding days. (Grandparents, Parents etc.) My Plan was the put them around the Cake. Since we are having like zero decorations at the church since its so beautiful by its self and really no welcome table or any place to put it.

Here is my Problem. I don't have Pictures of all the Grandparents.
Here are the Ones I HAVE
- My Dad's Parents
- My Parents Wedding
- My Dad's remarriage to Step Mom
- FI Parents

Ones I am Missing
-Both Set of FI Grandparents
-My Mom's Grandparents

Should I do it even though I am missing FI Grandparents? I don't want his family to feel Left out.
AND - I don't know if I should include my Dad and Step Mothers Wedding Picture. I am torn because it fits the category but may cause drama with my mom- but my Step mom is coming with her family and my dad's family will be there.

Enchanted616

I don't really know what to vote, but I don't really think its the missing people that would be that bad as the drama between your parents.  We thought about doing this but FI parents are divorced and his dad is remarried.. there would be a lot of drama around that.  As you said there might be drama because of it, and if you really think there would be, I would just skip it.  At least for me, I'm already being too optimistic that they will all get along that day, so I definitely wouldn't put anything out there to set someone off.

Enchanted616

Oh, and YGPM

laura_fett

I thought about doing this, but my parents just got divorced, less than a year ago, and I'm not sure the best way to handle that. I just decided to scrap the idea, but if you it wouldn't cause drama there, then go for it!

bellaxanthe

Is it possible to find other couple pictures of the ones you are missing?  Maybe they are not wedding photos, but you would still be including them.  Also on the step situation - I think you could simple mention it to your mom so that she is not surprised when she gets there. It is a delicate subject, but you are trying to make everyone feel a part of the day.

tpender13

I would try to come up w/something different. That just sounds like potential drama to me, and you want to be as relaxes as possible.

But, if your FI thinks it's a good idea and you think it won't cause any issues, then go for it.

shan87

Thanks for all the suggestions! I am going to chat with my Mom and FI before I make the final decision. I really wanted to have pictures because they are hilarious. My Parents Wedding was outragious. It was Brown Suits and Cowboy Hats and boots for the Guys and Peach Lace long sleeve dresses for the Women.
(My dad came from a wealthy famly in IL with no farm experience so the Cowboy Hats and boots were really random) Everyone loved it but the Priest wouldn't allow the hats in the church. At least someone had some sense. LoL no offense to any ladies going these route!!

Chances are it will be a no go with drama and gaps. But I'll keep you posted.
Thanks for the Feedback as always!!!!

I Want Cake

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_pictures-of-granparents-parents-their-wedding-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:493a1060-5324-46b5-a25d-bb30daf4a47dPost:000d82f3-2aa6-4d93-94fa-ece1197002aa">Re: Pictures of Granparents and Parents on Their wedding Day</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it possible to find other couple pictures of the ones you are missing?  Maybe they are not wedding photos, but you would still be including them.  Also on the step situation - I think you could simple mention it to your mom so that she is not surprised when she gets there. It is a delicate subject, but you are trying to make everyone feel a part of the day.
Posted by bellaxanthe[/QUOTE]

I agree.

Does your FI just not happen to have pictures of his family, or don't they exist or they can't get them from another relative?

shan87

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_pictures-of-granparents-parents-their-wedding-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:493a1060-5324-46b5-a25d-bb30daf4a47dPost:524b9b64-2684-409b-bd5e-ca39a31b3024">Re: Pictures of Granparents and Parents on Their wedding Day</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pictures of Granparents and Parents on Their wedding Day : I agree. <strong>Does your FI just not happen to have pictures of his family, or don't they exist or they can't get them from another relative?</strong>
Posted by I Want Cake[/QUOTE]

Long Story Short : FI's Grandma (on his dad's side) burned all the family pictures after a family despute and when she was moving from the farm to a nursing home because no one said they wanted them.... Which made FI really upset. Not one left :(
FI Grandparents on his Mother side were married in the Phillipines and passed away some time ago. As far as I know the pictures have been lost over time.

jtothelee216

I say go for it!  Do you have any aunts/uncles wedding pictures you could add?  What about anniversary pics or just family pics in general?  You could possibly mix this with family pictures of when you were younger?  Just a suggestion.

I Want Cake

Geez, talk about a "firey" temper. Sorry for the bad pun.  It's too bad that the photos got destroyed.  I'd do what the PP said and see if you can still find any pictures of those people, regardless of if they're wedding photos.  If there are still any around, that'd be great, but people would understand why there aren't any if you don't have any to display.  It's not like you haven't made an effort, and that's what counts.

hkiesling

Umm...can you post the cowboy/peach dresses pictures?  Pleeeeaaasseeee!

SuperRNluvsChef

Shan--I'm totally hoping do to this too! Except I kinda wanted them as centerpieces.  Also having similar problems, my parents are divorced (have been for 11 years) and my mom is remarried.  So I was debating about this issue.  I want to have my parents wedding photo (they are MY parents after all so why can't I have pics of them displayed even if the marriage didn't work out in the end?)  But I don't want drama with my dad's side by displaying my mom and stepdad's wedding photo.  I also don't even know if we're going to have photos from FI's side (except we'll for sure have his parents photo).  GAH. Now I'm thinking I should just scrape the whole idea after reading all these posts.  No one wants wedding drama. 

shan87

Heather
I will scan a couple when I am home this wknd and post them.


I want cake : My FI and I thought ppl only burned pictures of their exes. FI was super upset because there goes his family history and he loves old stuff.

beka0404

OMG, I can't believe his grandma BURNED FAMILY PICTURES. As a total genealogy nerd, that pains me beyond compare. I completely understand why your FI would be upset. Since you're missing your maternal grandparents as well as all of FI's grandparents, could you do like jtothelee suggested and supplement with FI's aunts/uncles, siblings, etc? If this is something you really want to do, I think supplementing and going away from your direct family tree is the best route.

shan87

Here is my thought -
Emailing/contacting all the immediate family up to Grandparents and asking them to send pictures from their wedding day. And put together a "Family Wedding" Table
I think if it includes other members it may decrease the potential for drama as it will be 1 picture out of several. If I get a terrible response then I will scrap the whole idea.

Bimbi284

What about instead of immediate family, since there is some drama there, you use pics of friends' weddings? For example, are any of your BMs or GMs married? Or what about aunts, uncles, cousins, etc?

shan87

Bimbi : My plan is to include aunts and uncles