Because we are having a larger wedding, we wanted to keep our rehearsal dinner smaller-just immediate family and those actually taking part in the wedding-musicians (who are our friends), readers....we aren't having a bridal party. We want the RD to be the time that we get to spend with our close friends and family since we know that the day of is going to be hectic and we will be pulled in every direction.
We were asked by one of my aunts why they weren't invited and I told her this reason and she told me that when her daughter, my cousin, was married they invited all of their OOT guests. If we were to do that, it would basically be our entire guest list! We have many people, friends and family, that live across the country. I might add that they had their RD at the Nicollet Island Pavillion. We aren't working with that kind of budget.
My mom is throwing a 'family dinner' for my aunts and uncles, cousins, kids...etc two nights before the wedding. We are also planning on doing either a boat cruise or river cruise on Saturday (our wedding is on a Sunday).
I guess I was just taken aback that she would ask that of me, and we are having a 'family' dinner as well as a reception and they are invited to a gift opening. Am I completely wrong in thinking this is enough and that it is ok to not invite them to the RD??