I need some help with this one...
My parents have been divorced about 10 years and neither are remarried. They got along pretty well (on and off) and will sometimes hang out together, and have for the most part been friendly for my sake. My father has had a girlfriend for a few years, who I for one, am not a huge fan of. I dont really hate the woman, but I dont feel much for her, one way or the other. Kind of cold and impersonal, and VERY bossy and possesive of my father.
I asked my father just this evening if he would be alright with having this gf of his sit in the row behind him at the wedding ceremony in the church, and just sit up front with my mom- just the two of them. He completley freaked out on me, and told me what a slap in the face it was to the girlfriend, how she wont know ANYONE else (even though she's quite familiar with my fathers family, and would have ample people to sit with during the ceremony), and how it would look to have her sit behind him. I said that for mine, and my mothers sake (who doesn't much care for this woman), it would be appropriate to have her sit in the second row (i'd prefer her to be farther back but hey...its all about compromise right?) for the ceremony, and then, FINE, she can sit at the parents table for the reception. All I want is my mom and dad together for the 20 minute ceremony. She's never been warm to me, i've never met HER children, and she has had absolutely NOTHING to do with my upbringing or anything to do with me more than idle small talk at family gatherings.
He's not budging on this. Very adamant about how terrible it would be, and look, etc etc. Its still early in the wedding planning and I could get a couple deposits back, and I am feeling that we might change the whole plan eventually if he wont budge on this. Is it so much for me to just want my parents in the front row for the ceremony? Please let me know if I'm being ridiculous.
Thanks...