I haven't been on here in awhile, but I'm just about to burst. For the past two months my FI and I have not really been speaking to FSIL. Now the FMIL and other FSIL has been dragged in and none of them support him marrying me anymore. The whole fight started because the one FSIL kept complaining about the dresses I wanted the BM's to wear, so my FI got in the middle of it and just told her that if she didn't like the dress she could wear a jacket or shawl, and if she still wasn't comfortable with that, we didn't want anyone feeling like they had to be in the wedding. And we didn't mean it in a mean way - we really don't want people wearing stuff they're not comfortable with, or spending money they don't have. Also, this had been the THIRD time I had accomodated to her specifications on dresses - it couldn't be more than $120, it couldn't be tea length, and it couldn't be strapless, and it couldn't be form fitting. How much more limitations can a bride have?? Anyways, so the whoe thing snow-balled and she took herself out of the wedding, the FMIL has openly expressed her feelings about me to my FI, and the other FSIL has openly stated that I'm ruining the family. It makes me sad because I'm not looking forward to the wedding anymore, I don't want to do any wedding planning, and I just want to "get it over with". We're going to talk tonight and seriously consider going to the court. I'm the type of girl that's been planning her wedding since I was like five. I'm the only kid in our family to have (maybe) an actual big wedding - my other siblings and my parents all went to the courthouse. I'm just sick to my stomach about this and have been breaking down randomly during the day.
Sorry this is long, but I feel like venting to other future brides or recent brides is better then venting to people who don't really understand how important this is. I just don't really know what to do anymore. Also, if you do read this, you should know that my family has treated him like their own son since day 1...I've never felt welcome in their family, and have been called "just his girlfriend" by his family during this whole ordeal...also, I'm the 3rd SIL that his sisters have ganged up on. I'm convinced the women in his family do not like outside women coming in AT ALL.