pre-Thank you card

threemarie24

We just got some wedding gifts in the mail (sweet!!) 

So here is my question, I am planning on sending a wedding picture as my Thank you cards..with a personal note on the back. I also want to get as many Thank you cards out before the wedding as I can--should I send one now, and a picture later? --I could always send "regular" thank you notes for everyone, and a picture for a summer Holiday or something, but that would mean double stamps, hummmm

What did/will you do?

Bimbi284

I think that could be okay. You could send out a "thank you for the gift" version for those who send gifts before the wedding, and a "thank you for coming/gift" one for after.

munkychip

I would wait- send them all at once! It's nice to acknowledge appreciation of the gift but it may get confusing as to who you sent one to and it would just seem right to wait until after your wed. Some couple wait til the gift opening to open gifts received via mail.

threemarie24

I think I will send a thank you for the gift card, and then send a thank you over all...wish you could make it/thank you for coming card. --since we are having a DW wedding most people will not make it, therefore I think it will be nice to send along a picture. 

I have also heard (although I am not 100% sure) you should open gifts and then send Thanks you's as soon as you get them. 

Bimbi284

Yeah, I think the opening gifts as you get them and then send thanks right away is more of a sanity keeper kind of thing than an etiquette thing really. That way you won't have to be writing out like a hundred thank yous all at once. This way, they will also know right away that you received it, and acknowledge that. I know I wouldn't find it strange at all if I got a thank you before the wedding if I sent the gift early!

Aimothy

I waited until after the wedding to send all thank yous, because I created a thank you note that incorporated our wedding photos. 

I was kicking myself that I didn't write out the ones we got before the wedding.  There is so much to remember, and even if you take good notes (which I thought I had!), gifts start to blend together and I am sure I thanked people for things that they really didn't give me!

I wish I wouldn't have had as many thank yous to write after the wedding, and I could have easily gotten 50 or so done for those gifts we received beforehand.

Even though I didn't write a formal thank you, I did still send a quick email/text/facebook inbox message to the sender acknowledging that we had received the gift.

wittyschaffy

I didn't do photo thank yous but I can personally vouch for it being sooo nice to be done with some of the thank-yous BEFORE the wedding.  I felt like I was writing them for ages afterwards.  If there is any way to do one beforehand, do it!

emilykathleen511

I would just use regular thank-you cards for all of them; then, send Christmas cards with a nice wedding photo of the two of you. Problem solved. And definitely send thank-you cards as soon as you receive the gifts.