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Least Important Part?

So, in follow up from yesterday's question, what is, for you, the least important part of the wedding? What part are you least interested in spending any (or much) money on?

For me, it is flowers and random decor. Aside from centerpieces, I just don't care much. I have never been into flowers, and don't even really care about having a bouquet. I find it a waste of money if I don't want them, but J is insisting that I AT LEAST have a bouquet, so I'm giving in on that. ;) My mom thinks I'm crazy that I don't care for flowers. I'm also of the opinion that the grand architecture of the Landmark Center will make up for any lack of extra decor.

Thoughts on your own least favorite parts?
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  • edited December 2011
    Funny, I originially thought I didn't care at all about flowers either...until I started looking into it.  I am not going all out or anything but I am way more excited about my bouquet than I ever thought I would be!

    I think I really didn't/don't care all that much about invitations or paper products.  Some of you ladies make such amazing DIY invites and I am totally jealous of your skills.  I had a look that I wanted mine to achieve but I really wasn't picky or concerned about them.  I just wanted them to have the correct info!  Also, we are just ordering some generic/tacky-ish programs through the church, because I do NOT  want to deal with designing and printing those myself!
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  • edited December 2011
    Diddo on the flowers.  I always tell FI not to buy me flowers because I think they are a waste of money since they die in about a week.  I am having the least amount of flowers as possible.  The chapel def has the beauty to make up for lack of decor that I am having.
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  • edited December 2011
    Chair covers/sashes, and all of that random decorations stuff. I really didn't care much about my dress either, to be honest.
  • maybe984maybe984 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto kayla on the DIY paper products. I did take a lot of pride in my invitations (even though they were only semi-DIY kits from Michael's) but the rest of it just bored me to tears. I actually ended up (gasp!) skipping programs altogether because I just completely ran out of time. My uncle was officiating, and we know 100% what we were doing for the ceremony until he arrived a day before the wedding. I literally had my program kits, computer, and printer sitting in my car during the rehearsal dinner... and I was going to run back to the hotel early and stay up late to finish them... then I realized it really didn't matter. Had I gotten more time to work on them, I would have totally loved to do a long, detailed playbill sort of program that gave bios on all of our wedding party members and such... but with only having time for boring basics anyway, I didn't see the point. ANNND it saved me $80 bucks when I returned the kits a week later ;-)

    I also scrapped my homemade cardbox project and instead of pre-planned, cute little favors, had bowls of candy and pretzels scattered throughout the venue and gave people bottles of wine on their way out (we bought our own and had A LOT left over!)

    I don't understand you anti-flower people. I respect you, but I don't understand you ;-)
  • hippoloverhippolover member
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    edited December 2011
    decor...although I still wish I was getting chair covers and sashs.  I just want people to remember how much fun they had, not how the place looked. :)

    Sorry ladies, I am one of those anti-flower people.  I don't hate them, but I don't love them.
  • edited December 2011
    My Mom is super obessed with matchy matchy WP. I am not, she wants all the girls in the same shoe since its a short dress, I could care less.

    I also don't care what the guys wear. They are wearing tacky white tuxes (my dress is off white) and it doens't bother me at all as long as the guys themselves are cool with it (and David of course).

    Church decorations, its an old school catholic church and has enough character itself (my DOC insisted on adding pew bows though).

    I didn't care what we used for cutting/serving set or the RB pillow. My FMIL offered theirs which was sweet and will be our something borrowed. I am beyond excited that I don't have to pay for that. :)

    I had no interest in doing a Unity Candle (originally wanted sand) so that DIY project was a struggle.
  • edited December 2011
    Originally I didn't care about flowers either but then I met Lacey (Intuitive Blooms) and I feel totally different now! 

    I'm like Shan, not picky about what shoes my BM's wear. 

    Also, the PEC provides linens in limited colors, and those colors are fine for me.  We'll just have ivory linens.  Sure, colored linens would look awesome, but I'm not interested in spending more $$ on colored linens that no one will ever remember. 

    Invites.  Sure I want them to look nice but I don't want to spend a lot of time and effort on something that is probably going to end up in the trash for most people.  It makes me sad to think about working hard on something that will just be thrown away. 

    I'm also not really motivated to do my centerpieces.  I know we need them, but I'm just not motivated to do it!
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm probably in the minority here but I thought our cake was a waste of money. I have never been to a wedding in my life where I LOVED the cake, but I'm not a huge cake fan as it is and never is DH. We didn't spend much time researching cakes and we only did two cakes tastings. I do really like looking at the cakes at our weddings though. :)
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  • edited December 2011

    Same as yours - flowers/random decor.  I want the wedding site to be beautiful enough on it's own, I don't want to have to hang up streamers and stuff to make it beautiful.

    Besides, too many streamers and it starts to look like a baby shower lol.

  • edited December 2011
    Reading through everyones responses- I was agreeing with a lot of them! Don't care about chair covers, didn't care about flowers until I met with Jeni from SSE, don't care about church decorations, sand ceremony stuff, etc.

    I ended up caring a lot more about invites and flowers than I initially thought I would!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_least-important-part?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:bfc579cc-788b-42bd-b8b3-134dcc9504efPost:13dd0022-acee-46c9-9cfc-8b3638f34e64">Re: Least Important Part?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm probably in the minority here but I thought our cake was a waste of money. I have never been to a wedding in my life where I LOVED the cake, but I'm not a huge cake fan as it is and never is DH. We didn't spend much time researching cakes and we only did two cakes tastings. I do really like looking at the cakes at our weddings though. :)
    Posted by veijes[/QUOTE]

    <strong><font color="#800080">I totally agree.  I am a big sweets fan but wedding cakes are ridiculously expensive.  Some of them are totally beautiful and I enjoy looking at them but really a waste of money in my mind.  That's why we are ending up with cupcakes.  Jeff's were delicious and way more inexpensive than other options.

    A lot of the time by the time cake comes around people are full anyway!</font></strong>
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  • edited December 2011
    I don't really care about the caker serving set or toasting flutes... total waste of money to me. I also don't really care about what the FG and RB wear... yes I want them in our colors.. but they will look cute no matter what they wear.
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    edited December 2011
    Favors and Flowers for me. I've never been a big flower person and probably never will be :-P

    There's actually quite a bit of wedding stuff that I can live without, lol.

    I too agree that wedding cakes for the most part are a huge waste of money, a good chunk of that money goes toward labor anyway since they're incredibly labor intensive.
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  • edited December 2011
    Ohh yes I have no opinion/care for favors either. I am not doing them and don't think my guests will care. I also don't care much about cake because I don't like cake. BUT we will have a lot of other desserts that I DO care about. :)
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  • jmkaiserjmkaiser member
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    edited December 2011
    It's funny because my OCD makes me care about everything:) ha! I really wish I could have avoided invitations all together. I'm about a day away from sending them out and I'm about to pull my hair out.

    As for the cake, I don't care about cake but my family liked the tradition of something. So we're doing a rice krispie cake! I'm actually pretty excited about how it's going to turn out.

    My dad ended up building me a bird house card box that I saw on etsy. It is incredible--this was definately something I didn't care about but it means a lot to me now.
  • maybe984maybe984 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_least-important-part?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:bfc579cc-788b-42bd-b8b3-134dcc9504efPost:3c1e7073-c3e7-43ab-b9eb-af89eb5c48f3">Re: Least Important Part?</a>:
    [QUOTE]My Mom is super obessed with matchy matchy WP. I am not, she wants all the girls in the same shoe since its a short dress, I could care less.Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]

    Oh God, Shan... me too! In my case, it was my sister/MOH who was consistently striving for more uniformity. Originally, I wanted to give them free reign over dress styles as long as they had the same color and fabric... and she convinced me to simplify the choice down to four dresses with the same skirt and only differing bodices.

    Then, she tried to get them all to wear the exact same shoes. When that didn't work, she was ticked that not everyone had the same concept of "strappy silver metallic".

    Lastly, she almost cried when one of my BMs chose to have her hair half-up instead of all-up like everyone else.

    Meanwhile? I didn't give a hoot. In the end, I'm glad she pushed me towards the dresses we chose, but none of the rest of it mattered.
  • wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
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    edited December 2011
    Guestbooks, favors, customized napkins, place settings, throwing crap at the bride and groom as they leave... I'm sure I could think of more.

    I got our guest book at the World Market going out of business sale.  We got married in the fall and had very dark fall colors.  the guest book was a totally ugly floral blue and I pretty much got it because it was a dollar and it would make the "older" crew happy to sign something.  I have yet to open it since our wedding.  Our photobooth guestbook on the other hand - that was worth it and totally hilarious!

    The only favors I've ever liked were the kind you could eat or the kind that you could put on your fridge (photobooth pics in particular).  and I really don't care for bubbles or rice or petals or anything being thrown at the bride and groom.  Someone has to clean that up and who wants that job.  not me!  lol, I think if we didn't care about it, it didn't get done so there wasn't much for me to regret spending time on.
  • FutureMrsS13FutureMrsS13 member
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    edited December 2011
    mine is the dec and center piec. stuff.. then would be my dress..
  • edited December 2011

    I guess I'm in the minority because the cake was one of my favorite wedding aspects! H & I both love cake and I was so thrilled with how it looked & tasted, definitely don't regret a penny spent there!

    Really didn't care too much about invites & favors though. We didn't spend too much time on the invites, just chose a design in like 5 min and that was that. We couldn't think of meaningful favor either so we skipped them & donated that money to charity instead.

    Def agree with PP on the matchy-matchy WP too.. I really don't like that look.. Though we all stuck to the same color theme, all my BMs had different dresses, hair & shoes.

  • edited December 2011
    the organizer/scheduler/type A personality in me is picky about all aspects.

    things we've sacraficed on though are decor (i really wanted chivari chairs but $9 a chair is too much) and transportation. We're getting married in the same spot so luckily transportation was an easy cut. Decor was hard, I would have loved to rent table linens and chairs but it wasn't practical. Plus the St. Paul hotel is already beautiful so that made it easier

    I LOVE flowers and have been picky my whole life (thanks mom) so I'm very into how those will look for the wedding.

    I'm also completely obsessed with paper products and worked at a scrapbook store for years, so letterpressed invites were a must in my world. My FI joked with me "if there's one thing i've learned, a card isn't a card unless its letterpressed"
  • ogrady88ogrady88 member
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    edited December 2011

    It's hard to think about a part that is the least important.  We did save money by DIY all of our invites and paper, we are baking our cake (per family traditon).  I guess I would say the least important is the table linens.  I didn't really spend that much time worrying about it, we're having white with black napkins.

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_least-important-part?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:bfc579cc-788b-42bd-b8b3-134dcc9504efPost:6b086bf5-02cd-47b0-bb13-7ca9e544d083">Re: Least Important Part?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Guestbooks, favors, customized napkins, place settings, throwing crap at the bride and groom as they leave... I'm sure I could think of more. I got our guest book at the World Market going out of business sale.  We got married in the fall and had very dark fall colors.  the guest book was a totally ugly floral blue and I pretty much got it because it was a dollar and it would make the "older" crew happy to sign something.  I have yet to open it since our wedding.  Our photobooth guestbook on the other hand - that was worth it and totally hilarious! The only favors I've ever liked were the kind you could eat or the kind that you could put on your fridge (photobooth pics in particular).  and I really don't care for bubbles or rice or petals or anything being thrown at the bride and groom.  Someone has to clean that up and who wants that job.  not me!  lol, I think if we didn't care about it, it didn't get done so there wasn't much for me to regret spending time on.
    Posted by wittyschaffy[/QUOTE]

    Do we have the same Mom? My Mom went so far as to buy their shoes, so they would match of course. GEEEZZZ USSS Mom I don't want them to look like mindless droids up there. My Cousin (Jr BM) asked how I wanted them to do their hair and my Mom tried piping in that they should all wear it up. Mom seriously stop it now, I told her whatever they wanted was cool but I am having a hair stylist there if they would like to get it done. Just have to remember to breathe for the next month! She has sucked all the fun out of it in the mean time.
  • edited December 2011
    Programs and favors. I'm still kicking myself for ordering programs that needed ribbons as binders - total waste of time and money. Plain old fold over programs would have been juuuuust fine. Favors - hardly anyone even noticed them. Our venue was like a visual circus for most people (Varsity Theater) and most people walked right by the favor table without even noticing it. 

    In hindsight, I had my undies in a huge bundle over some really silly stuff (stressing over a guest book, the aforementioned programs, etc.)
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  • Bimbi284Bimbi284 member
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    edited December 2011
    Definitely, 100% the favors. I had looked around throughout planning to find something that I felt would be worthy of my guests, but not too expensive. That was pretty much impossible. I had pretty much given up when I finally thought of doing coasters! We bought a boat load of tile from home depot for suuuuper cheap (a mere few cents per tile). Got a couple of paper packs from michael's (used coupons), as well as a TON of mod podge and sealer. We made a little over 400 coasters so that we could have 4 per guest. We tied 'em up with a little black ribbon and were good to go! I know each set was less than $1. 
  • edited December 2011
    I didn't care that much about flowers until my parents threw a fit about the tulip bouts and corsages.  I cared that we had them, not so much about exactly what they were.  Also didn't care that much about DJ and limo, as long as they were there.
  • nordkenordke member
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    edited December 2011
    Invites, programs, favors, chair covers...I agree that I've been totally amazed (and jealous) of all of the beautiful invites I've seen on this board, but to me, it's a piece of paper that will get tossed in the garbage (except for my mom and I who will keep a copy) after the wedding is over. Plus, I'm not at all the creative type, which is why I was so thrilled when I found out that our church would also create a program for us, one less thing that I would have to do!
  • kristigileskristigiles member
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    edited December 2011
    programs and favors for sure.  I also didn't care much about my veil....i think they're all funny looking anyways.  I got the most plain, cheap veil I could find.
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