My 1st and hopefully only Bridezilla Moment

shan87

Today I had my 1st Bridezilla moment and honestly hope its my last. 
 
Personally I'm a career people pleaser and usually get taken advantage of. Well today I stuck my ground and while I may be flamed I had enough.

Most of you are familiar will my rants about one of my BMs. Brief Background::  I informed all my BMs of the deadline to order dresses. All made it but 1. I contacted her and let her know the deadline came and went and we were waiting on her to place the order. She promised she would go on X Date. Well X Date came and went and still nothing. So I texted her again and she said she completely spaced and was going after class that day. Well 4 days later and she still has yet to go in.

I am mad at this point. Its very hard to get my mad but she did. I don't want to nag these girls and I understand they have lives but she has had too many opportunties and too many excuses.

I'm not kicking or out of the wedding or anything but I did try calling her today she answered then hung up (I think she was in class) so I sent her a text message saying we couldn't wait any longer and the order for the dresses was going to be placed Wes. Nov. 18th (They are not opened tomorrow otherwise it would have been tomorrow) and if she could get in today she would be with the rest of the order otherwise her dress would be ordered separately.

She sent me a text message back saying sorry again and that she was going in today. But at this point I could care less. I've done everything I can so its out of my hands.

this is my last rant about the situation LoL

KateJ10

How annoying. But this isn't just about you- it is about the rest of the bridesmaids too. They can't order their dresses until she gets hers ordered too? I would be plenty pissed off.

Just saying- being assertive is not the same thing as bridezilla and I really really don't think you are out of line:)

PoliceWife104

Ugh how frustrating!!  I totally know what you mean about them still having their own lives & what not.  I have a BM that's never been in a wedding before, so I had to make it very clear to her how much work is involved with being a BM.  It's not just the wedding day & your done!  There's so much more to it.. As we all know!  She understands & I haven't had any problems, but I'm not as close to the wedding as you are.  Fingers crossed I don't have any! 

I do agree with you though, at this point it is out of your hands.  You've given her ample time & opportunities to order & she's just putting it off for whatever reason.  Hopefully she acutually does it today so you don't have to think about it anymore. 

I Want Cake

I still don't think you've had your Bridezilla moment yet.  If you'd kicked her out or dragged her in yourself by her ear, that would be a moment, but you're still being very reasonable and incredibly patient. 

PoliceWife104

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_1st-hopefully-only-bridezilla-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:cc866de3-5a39-4b31-8827-6790a6a69312Post:9ef06884-069f-4321-b28f-0d1119c68ce1">Re: My 1st and hopefully only Bridezilla Moment</a>:
[QUOTE]I still don't think you've had your Bridezilla moment yet.  If you'd kicked her out or dragged her in yourself by her ear, that would be a moment, but you're still being very reasonable and incredibly patient. 
Posted by I Want Cake[/QUOTE]

Agreed!  I forgot to say something like that in my PP!!  = )

LauraMC09

You may be really upset with this BM, but a bridezilla moment is when you freak out externally, not internally. It sounds like you handled it the best you could. I don't see a bridezilla here. Let's hope she gets in there today, and you don't have to worry about it!

drdifabio

I think you made a good call! I may be biased with my similar MIA BM situation but I dont think you overreacted at all. She is an adult and needs to take responsibility to meet her obligations.

graysquirrel

At this point I think that you did the only logical thing left. Maybe this is the only way that she will be able to get her act together. For some reason some people can't function until it is a do or die moment. And now she knows that if she doesn't get her sh*t in order, she will be SOL. I don't think that you're being a zilla at all! You're just trying to do the responsible thing. Her scatterbrained lack of action shouldn't jeopardize the rest of the girls' orders. 

shan87

thanks ladies. haha I guess my definition of Bridezilla is not accurate.

its probably better I didn't talk to her because I don't think I would have be able to hide my annoyance in my voice.

beka0404

What the others said about internal vs. external. Not bridezilla-ish. I had a disinterested bridesmaid as well - I felt a nasty mix of annoyance and hurt. Thumbs down.

Side note: Deep breaths, deep breaths... Can you really place her dress order separately? That's awesome. If not... if it helps assuage your fears, my BM dresses didn't get ordered until four months before the wedding. We were waiting on a bridesmaid who was due with a baby mid-May and right on the early June day she was scheduled to get fitted - the ordering deadline, natch (I tried to give her as much time as possible to de-puff from labor) - she had to have emergency gallbladder surgery. So we missed the bridal shop's deadline by a week. The dresses came in with three weeks to spare (Jasmine dresses) and everything worked out great.

shan87

Beka
I can. The bridal salon discourages it because they want all dresses to be cut from the same dye lot. But I told them at this pt come Wes. she is on her own and if her dress is off color that is her problem. She can explain to ppl she didn't get it in on time.

BTW breathing is good haha

shan87

YAY just got a Text from the BM that she went it and is all set! Who knew I just had to threaten she'd be on her own!!

PoliceWife104

THAT'S GREAT!!  Glad it got taken care of!  What a relief for you! = )

Cascasbaby53

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_1st-hopefully-only-bridezilla-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:81Discussion:cc866de3-5a39-4b31-8827-6790a6a69312Post:9ef06884-069f-4321-b28f-0d1119c68ce1">Re: My 1st and hopefully only Bridezilla Moment</a>:
[QUOTE]I still don't think you've had your Bridezilla moment yet.  If you'd kicked her out or dragged her in yourself by her ear, that would be a moment, but you're still being very reasonable and incredibly patient. 
Posted by I Want Cake[/QUOTE]

Agreed!