Wedding/Planning Confessions

LittleSweetie

 What are you worried about?  What do you need to get off your chest?  What do you wish you could change?  Let it all out. 

Clare13

Ahhh... this question is much needed.  I am concerned that we will have to call a ton of people to RSVP.  I am also worried about the rehearsal dinner.  FMIL is in charge of it and she has not been good at communication.  Luckally FI booked the restaurant but that is where it ends.  I just want to make sure people know about the dinner.  And finally I am nervous about everything coming together at the end.  So far I really haven't been stressed but I am naturally a worrier and just want the day to be here so I can see how all the hard work has paid off. 

Muffers

at this point in time I'm worried about the logistics of it all. with 4 months to go this shizz is getting REAL and i'm starting to think about all of the little things. like how long it will take us to get to A to B to C on the day-of for pictures- that kind of dirty detail stuff. my mind kind of wants to explode when i think about it all. so i'm working on taking it one little bit at a time. my to do list and timeline scare the crap out of me though!

NicoleR77

I am worried we will have to change the date! My FI is in the Navy and won't find out when he is deploying until September or so (our wedding is scheduled for next May.)  All the deposits we've put down so far are transferable if we need to, but I really really don't want to have to move to another date!

KittE7

Our adults-only reception.  It's still happening, but I had some very stressful conversations last week w/my aunt.  She called my mom & said that she was really offended and "just wouldn't be able to make it to the wedding" because her grandkids (my cousins' 6 kids) weren't invited.
My mom, dad, BF/MOH, and FI told me we don't need to back down, but I came within inches of caving.  I found out that we could set up a kids' room at no charge - or change to a bigger room for the dinner & keep the other room for dancing *at no charge* - and I went back to my aunt & asked if these would work for them...
and she replied & said that we "don't need to do anything special for the kids."  My cousin talked to her & apparently they're fine. So I'm taking her comments at face value, and the show goes on.

Now I'm worried how people will react when they find out that we're having a small group only at the ceremony & the rest of the crew for the party.  Sucks that family takes everything so personally - esp when we're not even close.

kclepire

I'm worried no one will be dancing.
I'm worried we're going to have to call a lot of people as we've only gotten 50% of RSVP's back so far.
I'm upset that FI's really good friend is not coming.  Just said they had a family thing going on that day....
The last 3 days I've just been thinking about how we could have gone on a ROCKIN' trip (or trips) with the moeny we're spending on this 10 hour day.

kristigiles

-well since I'm working on addressing invites right now, I'm worried that everyone will actually bring their "and guest"!  I sure do hope not, because that's a lot of extra people!!

-I'm suddenly worried its going to be like 110 degrees on our wedding day.  I know, I know, a chance I chose to take by picking August! 

-Fi's dad has offered to pay for our honeymoon so I was like HEY we should do it right after the wedding!  But now I'm all stressed about it and I feel like we can't go where we want to go because of hurricane season.  Maybe we should just go with our original plan of a mini-moon...

-Honestly, I'm worried that no one will dance and that it will be a boring wedding.  Who isn't a little worried about that??

That's all for now!

Muffers

kristigiles- look into Costa Rica for your HM. we're going for our September HM and can't wait! you escape the hurricane problem but can still do a tropical location without spending a fortune.

Clare13

I agree about the dancing.  Luckily we have a ton of friends invited so I'm fairly confident that they will get the party started.  But still a worry. 

kristigiles

thanks Muffers!  I'll check it out!

Izzygrim

I'm worried about the stress getting to me now that I'm getting into all the details. I've already been sick twice in the last two weeks and I'm NEVER sick... and this time was with strep, so I've been basically worthless all week which doesn't help. I'm trying to take one thing at a time, but when I let my mind think of everything that needs to happen in the next few months I start to worry. We are so not used to being this busy, and basically all of our weekends are busy until July, so how the heck are we going to get DIY invitations out by July 1st??
Thank goodness for my calm FI. Whenever I bring up stress he seems to be able to logically come up with solutions. They help me calm down for a while, until I realize there really is SOOO much more on my mental to-do list than his, so I really don't think he truly knows how much needs to get done. I kind of don't want to break it to him though, cause why stress him out too??

I'm also worried we're going to have restart our search for a DJ. The cousin of a BFF of my FI was going to be our DJ, but he recently moved to FL. He recommended someone else, but even after a follow-up we haven't heard from his recommendation. Finding a new DJ really isn't what I want to be spending time on at this point...

ETA: What I would have changed - I would have pushed the idea of eloping more. Or at least a small, simple, DW. Seriously. Totally should have.

zephyr_marie

I'm worried certain family members will create a scene, either drunk or sober.
I'm worried that the not so good relationship between myself and my FSIL will cause problems, but I just can't stand her, and for good reasons.
I think those are the only really big worries... everything else will be manageable... I think.

bellaxanthe

I worried about my sister as well. She's selfish and a pain.  I don't want her in the wedding party, or involved in any way - but with mom's financial help, it is not an option to not have her. Hasn't returned a call in 2 months.  Awesome time to try and pick dresses.
I'm worried I'll be huge and not find a dress. I'm worried I won't pull the vintage thing off. But it's all stuff, I cannot wait to start our lives together.  In the end that is all that matters to me.

graysquirrel

I'm also worried that we will regret the expensive party when we could have taken a European tour. I am worried about the sound at our outdoor venue and that our ceremony will only be 10 min long because I don't know anyone who sings & wont be doing the candle lighting.

leggwilliams

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[QUOTE]at this point in time I'm worried about the logistics of it all. with 4 months to go this shizz is getting REAL and i'm starting to think about all of the little things. like how long it will take us to get to A to B to C on the day-of for pictures- that kind of dirty detail stuff. my mind kind of wants to explode when i think about it all. so i'm working on taking it one little bit at a time. my to do list and timeline scare the crap out of me though!
Posted by Muffers[/QUOTE]

I confess that I'm stressing about details like this already and I'm still 15 months out!

I confess that I am spending way too much time on wedding stuff and not on school.

I confess that so far 5 of our friends have gotten engaged since us and they are all getting married before us and this makes me extremely jealous!

I confess that I'm often worried that we're spending way too much on this and I should just be realistic and cut back.

laura_fett

The wedding is not the biggest concern I have right now. I'm worried about FI not finding a job (just graduated, and didn't start looking until Saturday). I'm worried that we won't have a place to live since we aren't getting an apartment together until he gets a job. I'm worried that I won't be able to have any money saved for the last minute expenses for the wedding (which will be a large chunk of the budget) because I'm paid on commission and have had to use a lot of my wedding savings to pay my regular bills. I'm very lucky in the fact that my mom and FI parents are helping partially, and that I've been able to pay over a fourth of the cost already, but I'm still worried. Big old $$$ problems here.  

beka0404

I confess that there have been many days lately when I've looked at my budget total and thought "oh wow, this has turned into 'show-off day' instead of 'get married day'". Having a church wedding was SO IMPORTANT to me, and it still is, but there is a big part of me that resents forking out all this dough for a non-DW when we could be traveling instead. Especially with parenthood just around the corner (hypothetically).

I confess that I am tired of hearing other people's opinions about our day.

I confess that I'm still holding mild resentment towards my fiance's aunt who pitched a fit over our plans for a June wedding and said her family wouldn't be there. And we accommodated. And now we have a fancy October wedding instead of a simple summer farm wedding. I should have stood my ground and it's my own fault for feeling this way.

I confess that I'd rather gouge my eyes out with a spork than have everyone looking at me the day of the wedding. Uh, kind of inevitable. Also, ironic considering I used to be a "Miss [My Hometown]" and a cheerleader and a major major AW.

On a bright note, I don't have a ton of worries. My DOC has taken those off my back.

leggwilliams

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[QUOTE] I confess that I am tired of hearing other people's opinions about our day. Posted by beka0404[/QUOTE]

YES! This too

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[QUOTE] I confess that so far 5 of our friends have gotten engaged since us and they are all getting married before us and this makes me extremely jealous!
Posted by leggwilliams[/QUOTE]

Me too.  And one of them is my own sister, getting married 3 months before me.  But that's what I get for having a 18 month engagement.  Deep breaths.

NuggetBrain

I'm worried about the weather, as I find it extremely hard to believe that we'll have a week and a half of sunny weather straight.  And if we have to get married inside at the reception hall, we have to pay a hefty fee AND lose out on the cost we already paid for the park.  I'm also worried about the fact we keep getting hit with all these last minute things in all our final payments that somehow weren't there before.