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Inviting the Pastor?

mmattoonmmattoon member
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Is it customary to invite the pastor to the reception? I didn't send mine an invitation... and I would feel a little odd having him there while my friends and family are drinking and partying... but I don't want to offend him by leaving him out if it is the customary thing to do.
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  • arbolitaarbolita
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    edited December 2011
    I'm under the impression that it is, especially if it's someone you had a relationship with prior to wedding planning.  But they don't always come (my pastor declined, and said he rarely goes to the receptions).
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  • Rvnsgrl81Rvnsgrl81
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    edited December 2011
    I understand your concerns, we asked our Priest when we first met with him if he would attend the reception and he said as long as he was invited! We are meeting with him tomorrow and we are going to give him his invite. He is the priest that FI and his family grew up with and he married FBIL and FSIL also. So while I think it is weird FI doesn't.
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  • Googs79Googs79
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    edited December 2011
    We're going to invite our minister, but he's so laid back, I could imagine him pouring himself a glass of wine and partying with everyone else.  Invite your pastor and if he feels uncomfortable with the drinking and partying, he will decline.  It's best to let him have the choice.
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  • JVeauxJVeaux
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    edited December 2011
    I invited ours to our reception, and he accepted, but DH had a relationship with him prior to him officiating our wedding, but I would probably invite the officiant regardless. In addition, we asked him to do a quick blessing/prayer right before dinner.  He left shortly after dinner anyway.  I am sure that the Pastor is aware of what goes on at receptions so if he does not want to be there he will decline or leave after dinner anyway.
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  • SarahKate31SarahKate31
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    edited December 2011
    We invited our officiant as a courtesy (we did not have a prior relationship with her). She declined, which is pretty much what we expected.
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  • mmattoonmmattoon member
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    edited December 2011
    Can the invitation be verbal or should they get a formal invitation? And should his wife be invited as well? Thanks so much for your input!
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  • SarahKate31SarahKate31
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    edited December 2011
    We sent a regular invitation and invited our officiant "and Guest" (we didn't know if she was married or what).
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