How rude?!

tnspight

So here's the situation.  I am a counselor at a school and am inviting everyone from my unit and our principal to the wedding.  Everyone from my unit except one person and her spouse.  I had a falling out with her spouse about 3 years ago, before she began working there.  Then he stole almost $400 from another coworker/friend from whom he was renting a room.  The same weekend he stole the $, he took the now wife, then gf, out to dinner for her bday and bought her two presents.  My friend with whom he was rooming at the time helped him wrap the gifts (didn't know the $ was missing yet).  Everyone keeps telling me that I have to invite them if I invite everyone else from our unit.  What do you all think?

Mel713

I say invite who you want to invite.  I have family that I'm not inviting, if don't want someone there don't invite them. 

eclipsethecat

You dont have to invite anyone. I say just explain what you explained to us- in not so much detail- to whomever asks why they arent invited. And leave it at that. It really isnt anyone else's business why you dont want to invite them. Just say it is a personal manner- if I was asking you why I would be satisfied with that as an answer.

HiggyFan42

I work in a building of about 20 people. I am inviting every single person except one to the wedding. I dont' like her- end of story. I don't care if she feels left out or not.

KarenLee77

Don't invite them, he will try to steal your gifts.  I wouldn't invite them, and if someone gave me a hard time about it, I'd take their name off the list too!

tnspight

Thanks, Ladies!  I feel much better about it now.  Most people at work know the situation (him stealing) b/c most of us spend time together outside of work.  Everyone likes his wife and feels sorry for her but I don't.  So thanks, Everyone.