Forgiving the Marines...

Hiper85

is hard to do when they are removing my little brother from my wedding to send him to Afghanistan. I can't help but be bitter. I dont care about this counrty half as much as I care about the safety of my family. And how can you get married with out your brother there?? I am devistated.I know he signed up for this, but it sucks. Im getting Married 01.02.2010 and Im foolishly debating moving my date to November so he can make it (he leaves end of Nov.). Just about impossible..FUDGE!!!

thecatsfancy

Not impossible at all.  Might be a little tough, but definitely not impossible.   What date are you considering?

Hiper85

He doesn't even have all the details yet. he doesn't have an exact date. Plus we are still trying to come up with some of our budget. and our dresses (if they come in time) wont be here till end of oct early nov.Im going to do some investigating tomorrow.Did you have to move your date?

thecatsfancy

Nope...it's always been November 21.  But I do know that November is a slow time for weddings so I didn't have any problems at all finding vendors.  I planned everything in around 3 months except for the small stuff.

hippie4yahweh

Oh that sucks so much, I'm so sorry! I have my fingers crossed that my 2 cousins- we grew up together like siblings- will be able to make it, but as Marines I know they don't get to pick the dates they're deployed. It's so sad. Your brother is a major hero, though!

Hiper85

They all are... I never really appreciated them till one of our own became one. Now when I see a service uniform I cant help but tear up!

hippie4yahweh

I know what you mean! I go to breakfast at the same place every Sunday, just me and my latest book for some down time (much needed- my house is a zoo lol) and once a month there's this huge group of Army soldiers, and I feel like such a dork but I always go from booth to booth "Good morning! Hey thanks- you're my hero! Hey- thanks! Hi there, thank you for risking your life for me!" I think I embarass them, but they're used to me by now- it's often many of the same guys

*Rebecca & Chris*

Hey, I hear ya. My brother is in the Air Force and was deployed and missed our wedding. My brother found out in December that he was going to get deployed in March, and be gone for a year. We knew we couldn't pull it together in 3 months with Chris's entire family out of state. Then his deployment date kept getting pushed back and back and he didn't end up leaving until July. They couldn't have held off for 3 weeks, ugh. I wish more than anything that he could have been there, but we couldn't have pushed the wedding back over a year. Plus, they kept changing his date and everything, so we would have been screwed because now he isn't coming back till next August. It sucked not having him there and even taking pictures was bittersweet because he wasn't in the family pictures. I would check with your venue and other vendors to see if it is possible without much penalty. I would check with family and see if it would work for them... If so, I would do it.

mandanyrdreams

Hey maybe there is a bright side to this?Im sorry!Maybe they could move his date back?Who knows.I wish you didn't have such bad news

Hiper85

I thought about that too... but I don't want to get my hopes up.

aprillm730

I'm so sorry! I would be totally crushed as well.

l&bbaby

I went through the same thing but my little brother is in the Air Force. My dad surprised with an amazing gift. He did a live feed of my little brother at his station where we were able to see him and he could see us on the computer. My dad set it up at the hall and everybody was able to talk to him. It was the BEST part of my entire wedding, and extremely touching.

hollydoodle

I really hope things work out so that your brother can be home for your wedding. I know how hard it is to have family in the military. I almost died when my dad re-enlisted at 50 some-odd-years-old and was deployed to Baghdad! I was a wreck the entire year he was gone. This was a few years ago. But just the other day he got a call from a reserves recruiter and I am thinking, "Dear god man, you're almost 60! When are you going to give it up?" But of course with my dad, I didn't say anything. *sigh* I'm praying something works out with your brother.

Hiper85

Thank you all for your hopes and wishes. I don't think we are going to change the date. I don't want to stress myself out anymore and I wouldn't even have my dress thats is already paid for. It is sad but it is what it is and there isn't much I can do. I can just hope and pray that his date gets put back enough to make it! Is 3 months that unheard of? Lol... Ohh well.He wont physically be there, but he is still a groomsman and will be in the programs. He is still a huge part of this! and no one is replacing him!