BM needs to order dress, how to remind nicely

Melgor78

the end of April  I let my BM know that I would like them to order their dresses sometime in May.  It take about 4 months to get them in so I wanted to have them in a few months before just in cases there's a problem and for any alt.  I didn't wan to bug them about it so I called the bridal shop to see who has ordered.  One BM hasn't order yet.  How can I let her know that I really would like her to order the dress soon with out seeming pushy.  She hasn't said anything to me so I don't know if she forgot or is having money issues.  I don't want to be like everyone else has ordered just waiting on you. I know it's not the end of may yet but with this being a holiday weekend I don't see her going this weekend. 

Any thoughts?

Knottie1435582995

I'm not sure if this is the appropriate method but I had the same issue, one BM had not ordered their dress yet.  So, I sent out an e-mail to all of my BMs asking how they were, giving a little wedding update and "reminding" them to make sure they go in to order their dress by a certain date.  I further explained that the dresses needed to be ordered by that date, per the bridal shops direction, to assure that the dresses come from the same dye lot.  I then told them if there were any questions, concerns, or problems to contact me asap so we could get it figured out before the drop dead date on the dresses.

boogerbearoriginal

I think Mel's suggestion is perfect.

queenfm85

I had the same problem too. I live in CA and was only in MI for a weekend so all my girls but one had ordered hers. I just sent friendly reminders via text and she let me know money was tight for a little bit so i said it wasn't a problem since I definitely understand. I then called Davids Bridal on my end and asked what the latest she could order would be and waited to hear from her. She ended up ordering a couple weeks later and thanked me for being so patient and understanding with her.

I was STRESSED out for sure though.

blackberryaddict

Mel's suggestion was good.. 

I had my BM's order them from an internet site so there was no way I could track whether they ordered their dresses yet or not. I e-mailed everyone a reminder.. Then a week later I talked to every BM individually to see how they were doing and if they had ordered their BM dress yet. This worked for me.. 

corinne2010

Mel's suggestion is very polite. I have a BM that ordered her dress at the very last minute, literally. I said everything needed to be ordered by April 1 at 5:00 pm. She was there at 4:30 getting fitted. I was calling her constantly because I knew she would be the last one. It's ok to stay on top of them until they do it!

ladysunkissed

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[QUOTE]I'm not sure if this is the appropriate method but I had the same issue, one BM had not ordered their dress yet.  So, I sent out an e-mail to all of my BMs asking how they were, giving a little wedding update and "reminding" them to make sure they go in to order their dress by a certain date.  I further explained that the dresses needed to be ordered by that date, per the bridal shops direction, to assure that the dresses come from the same dye lot.  I then told them if there were any questions, concerns, or problems to contact me asap so we could get it figured out before the drop dead date on the dresses.
Posted by melhunny[/QUOTE]

I did the exact same thing. Although she STILL has not ordered her dress (the rest of the girls ordered them in February! UGH!