Memorial ideas?

tweber510

I'm having a hard time thinking of something special to do for my mom. I've seen candles and things like that but my mom never liked candles, so i'm trying to come up with something. 

Any ideas?

katy0293

:hugs:

what we're doing:

We'll have a large bouquet of her favorite flowers displayed during the ceremony in a vase that will be etched with something mentioning her memory.

My siblings are both in the wedding party and they will each place a white rose on a chair for her, i'll place a rose on that chair when I get to the front.

I'm also going to have a charm on my bouquet with her picture on it.  Or maybe a locket

We also will probably have something in the program.

I know a lot of people aren't real keen on doing obvious memorials at weddings, but she is so important to me.  I want her to be a part of my day and these are the only ways I can do that.  I don't really care what other people think about this aspect of my wedding.

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What about carrying a picture of her in a little locket and then wrap it around your bouquet? I am not trying to be mean, but a wedding is supposed to be a happy occasion, so whatever you decide to do, I would keep it at a minimum. Also, if you are doing programs, be sure to mention her in there.

buckeyesweetz

I mentioned my mom in programs and also wore a piece of her jewelry. We also had a photo of my mom/dad wedding and my husband's mom/dad wedding on either side of our picture on our mantle at the reception. I agree with Missy in the sense that it is supposed to be a happy occasion.... So in other words don't plan anything that could potentially upset you during the day (you will already be more emotional than usual) Good luck with your planning:-)

katy0293

I'll be doing all my crying the morning of.  The things we're planning to do, I'm confident, will make me smile, not cry.

I'm going to break down at some point during the day because she's not there.  If we did nothing obvious, it would be a big pink elephant in the room for 95% of our guests.  Acknowledging it and having her a bigger part will get it out of everyone's system.

a-ingram

Katy, I'm so sorry your mom won't be there for your special day.  I think placing a flower on her chair will help remind your family and guests that even though she isn't there, she is still with you.  I agree, doing nothing would not be an option if I was in your situation.  I'm sure whatever you choose will be a beautiful reminder that your mom will be watching over you on your wedding day.

katy0293

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_ohio-columbus_memorial-ideas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:112Discussion:f9d981d6-a52f-4c32-ad9b-c271bcf39e6ePost:d6e50b6d-1d0e-4e96-875f-c6792a1ad215">Re: Memorial ideas?</a>:
[QUOTE]Katy, I'm so sorry your mom won't be there for your special day.  I think placing a flower on her chair will help remind your family and guests that even though she isn't there, she is still with you.  I agree, doing nothing would not be an option if I was in your situation.  I'm sure whatever you choose will be a beautiful reminder that your mom will be watching over you on your wedding day.
Posted by a-ingram[/QUOTE]

Thank you =)
I'm not, by any means, looking for validation on my ideas, I was just letting tweb know what I was doing.  But it put a big smile on my face to read your reply =) Thank you!

tweber510

I agree with you Katy i feel like my mom was a bigger part in my life then just a mention in the program and a candle. I'm still looking and I hope I find something that fits her and I. I think being in this situation you have to cry at one point during the day. I don't want to cry all day over it but at the same time I need to release that and I need something that lets me know she's here with me. This is hard for people to understand unless they've been through it, i think.