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Dad/Step-dad/brother issue

Hi. I don't post much on here, but I have a little situation that I need help with and was wondering if anyone had any advice. 
My dad died when I was 7. I'm trying really hard to include him in the wedding. I will be wearing my locket on my bouquet of flowers. I will have a candle lit at the front of the church for him. My first question: I want to put in the program that this candle is for my dad. How do I word that? Anyother ideas about how I can make my dad part of the day?
Secondly, I am going to have my mom and step dad walk me down the aisle. I think my older brother really wanted too. Instead of the 'dad/daughter dance', I am going to do 'sister brother' dance BUT i need a song! THere isn't really a song that comes to mind when i think of my brother so please help!

Also, this has nothing to do with my situation, but i need a limo/party bus still! anyone heard things about luxury limo, or millennium. 

Thanks in advanced! Wink

Re: Dad/Step-dad/brother issue

  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry your dad won't be with you on your special day.

    I'd recommend putting a picture of your dad near the candle so you don't have to explain it. Some people also do this at the reception. If the church doesn't allow this, then sure, you could put something in the program such as:

    The candle (describe location) is for my beloved Dad who can't share this day, but his light has helped me along the way.

    As for a dance with your brother, pick a song that describes an event or your feelings about him. This link was in a post I read on "First Dance" in Special Topics:

    http://www.wedalert.com/songs/motherson/index.asp

    On the left are links for first dances, dad/daughter, etc. Maybe something will strike you as appropriate.

    Good luck.
  • ms nobodyms nobody member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    the song can be whatever you want it to be. i'd find a song that you both like that isnt necessarily romantic.  
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm sorry that your Dad passed when you were so young. You could have a place set for him at the reception for rememberence. I think the locket on your bouquet is a beautiful idea as well as a candle with a brief explanation in the program. Most people will suggest you not do too much as weddings are joyous occasions and if you include too many things it can become a bit sad and dampen the mood. Ultimately, even if you don't do any outward symbol, I'm sure he will be there in spirit and in your thoughts.

    There were limo recommendations earlier if you scroll through the posts - I'm not using a limo so I can't help you.

    Ms. Nobody, FWIW I don't think those dances (parent/sibling/step parent/etc) should ever have romantic connotations. I don't want to be at the wedding where the groom and his mom are dancing to a love song - icky.
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