Facebook Wedding Invite

emarston1

I think it's like an urban legend - people being invited to weddings via facebook.  Well I just was.  He invited all of his facebook friends - all 233 of us.  Really?!  Especially since their venue can only hold 100 people.  Guess they'll be SOL if people actually show because of the FB invite.

This has been a weird day.

Sue-n-Kevin

OMG! I am convinced Facebook will be the death of grace and etiquette.

larzhope

ugh I also had a friend send out an invite via facebook (pretty sure he made it private though and only invited those who were actually invited).

He works with us and also sent us the paper invite via interoffice mail... LOL

zulamay

Hehe just be glad you are not his FI.   Maybe he didn't mean it to go out to everyone - shoot him a note and ask if a formal invitation will follow.

emarston1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_facebook-wedding-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:696bbee7-76e1-4b8d-81ca-753dadb39495Post:336102de-73cf-4976-a19e-932466fb2bb1">Re: Facebook Wedding Invite</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG! I am convinced Facebook will be the death of grace and etiquette.
Posted by Sue-n-Kevin[/QUOTE]
This exactly.  The event is even public!  I can add any one to the invite list if I was so inclined.

I try to keep as much wedding stuff off of facebook as I can so people don't get the wrong idea and think they might be invited.  I guess I'm just really cautious about this stuff and am on the complete opposite end of the spectrum as this couple!

emarston1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_facebook-wedding-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:696bbee7-76e1-4b8d-81ca-753dadb39495Post:cf75d67c-762c-476e-bf52-43dc0d4b7d98">Re: Facebook Wedding Invite</a>:
[QUOTE]Hehe just be glad you are not his FI.  :) Maybe he didn't mean it to go out to everyone - shoot him a note and ask if a formal invitation will follow. :)
Posted by zulamay[/QUOTE]
No, I'm pretty sure this wasn't an oversight.  He has had multiple facebook statuses asking people for addresses.  Just "Hey send me your address so we can send out invites.  It's going to be the best party of the year! "

zulamay

Wow, asking for addresses publicly?  That is insane.  Some people think weddings are just an excuse to get drunk with everyone they know.  

You make a good point about the FB status updates.  I keep posting, it's bad...I need to cut the addiction.

sammichele

Apparently "wedding" must mean something different to certain people rather than others.  If they wanted to throw the "best party of the year" they can chose any old day to do that.

mrsbunyip

My sister-in-law (knottie as well) sent FB invites to people as well.  She invited about 50 people from her list of 90 something.  She is sending invitations as well, but she did make this event public as well.  I should invite the 200 people on my list!

lcsnowflake

I got invited to a wedding via facebook- actually two weddings!!!  One I was clearly an add-on since it was two weeks before the wedding, and it was a private message.  I was told that they accidently didnt have us on the list and forgot to send a real invite.
The second wedding was a public event and a huge list of people.  The wedding pictures looked like the wedding didnt turn out that big, but still strange

needless to say- I didnt go to either

agreed with Sue- what happened to etiquette?  On that note- what about thank you notes?  are thank you text messages acceptable?  I would never do that for wedding or shower thank yous, but for birthdays?  my mom seems to think its ok, but I'm not sure it has the same effect. 

MMRoberts11

One of my sorority sisters asked us how we'd feel about her inviting us over FB with private messages to save money on postage and the invites.  We decided as a cheap STD this was fine but otherwise we'd like an invite. 

I agree with you too Susan.  Hello FB goodbye etiquette... sadly.

Milsey32

I am not a fancy schmancy kind of girl... I like to play outside and get dirty, I don't wear dresses often (and only wear heels because my FI is 6' 6" and I'm 5' 3" ...) but I would NOT invite people to my wedding via facebook! that's insane! I mean, if it was to schedule a dress fitting with the BMs or something, sure (and it'd be private), I'd create an event on facebook only because I like how someone can post for all to read (so there's no confusion and you don't have the 'she said that so-and-so said that you said' type of situation) but an actual invite? seriously? crazy.

icsnowflake - the first wedding with the pm to you, did you know about the wedding? like, do you think they invited you because they realized you knew and had friends going or something? It's still crazy, and no offense, I really think they probably had people declining left and right and they were like "oh we can invite more people... how about her?"

zulamay - I keep posting too! Definitely cutting back and people say you shouldn't talk wedding plans with people who aren't invited, heck, I'm trying to not talk wedding plans to anyone but my FI and some BMs if I want their opinion on this or that. 

jsmn266

OMG my Fi just did something like this! We're in the Crate and Barrel contest and he made a fb event asking ppl to vote for us... well at the end of the description he added "After you vote please send your address so that we can send an invite". Last night I received a text from someone saying they voted.... here's the address (she didn't want to send through fb) I thought it was weird, but just said ok (I was going to invite her anyway) 

Well this morning I saw that on the group and my jaw DROPPED! Needless to say I changed the content (luckily only two ppl have sent addresses and luckily those two were both invited)

I just wanna know WTH he was thinking! I wish we could invite the whole world, but even with 100k that would be impossible!