tattoo - please help

lesley909

i have nothing against tattoos, i even have a few (that can be hidden and a matching one with my mom and sis) my younger sister (21) has this awful tattoo across her whole chest.  would it be wrong of me to ask her to cover it up (i would do this privately)? My mother thinks its ok, just wondering what all of you think. thanks!!

emarston1

Personally, I don't think it's ok to ask.  Your sister is your sister and the tattoo is a part of who she is.  By asking her to cover it you sort of saying that you don't accept her for who she is and want her to change for the wedding.  If she is ok with the tattoo (since it's on her body), you should be ok with the tattoo.

ETA:  The tattoo was there when you asked her to be in your wedding (I'm assuming anyway) so you knew ahead of time that it would be there.

Also, would you be upset if someone told you that you had to change your hair color because it didn't fit with the look they were going for with the wedding?  I definitely would be.

aliciadiane

I think it depends on the relationship you and your sister have. If she is someone who would be ok with you speaking your mind or someone who would take offense to it, it has to be your call. If it is important enough to you to say something! Good Luck!

Gwenwhyfare

Personally, yes, I think it's rude to ask.

My Mom has one across her chest, too and it's part of her, and her personality. I didn't see any issue with it, but my Aunt didn't like the idea of it in pictures. Honestly, I'm so used to seeing it, it wasn't a big deal to me.

courtney1188

I agree with others that it is rude to ask. I think parents tend to see it differently just because tattoos are not as common among their generations...my mom asked if I was making sure the BM dresses I choose will cover up my cousin's tattoo. I'm not, but my point is that someone in their 20s or 30s is much more likely to see this as rude and offensive than someone your mother's age.

Melgor78

I think it would be rude to ask but depending on your relationship with her you would have to decide.  My sister was my moh and I had no problem telling her about how she dressed for the wedding but I would never say anything to my other bm.  I picked them and I took them as there are

MMRoberts11

I wouldn't ask since she already has it.  If she wants to cover it for her wedding she will.

lisa89760

It all depends on your relationship with your sister...I would have no problem telling my sister to cover up a tattoo but that's because we say that kinda stuff to each other.  I would never imagine saying that to one of my non-sister BM's though. 

lesley909

thanks for all the anwsers, my mother doesnt have anything aginst tattoos either like i said she has them.  the tattoo is just a little gory and offensive. i do love the high neck line dresses, maybe ill pick those and have her cover it without saying it. she still has her whole arm tattooed to show off (the arm and chest are too much)

courtney1188

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[QUOTE]thanks for all the anwsers, my mother doesnt have anything aginst tattoos either like i said she has them.  the tattoo is just a little gory and offensive. <strong>i do love the high neck line dresses, maybe ill pick those and have her cover it without saying it.</strong> she still has her whole arm tattooed to show off (the arm and chest are too much)
Posted by lesley909[/QUOTE]

This is probably the best thing for you to do.

Milsey32

That's a great way to solve the problem! It's a win-win situation, IMO.