WR: Am I doing the right thing?

missmelanie81

So FI's parents are paying for alot of the They let us have our reception at the place we really loved...now FI's mom is wanting to put the deposit down on the chapel, and she really want the White wedding chapel in heritage park in Taylor. (Here is the link incase you've never seen it: http://www.thelittleweddingchapel.com/locations_lakefront.php )

I dont LOVE It...but I dont hate it. I was really wanting the grecian centers outdoor wedding chapel..but she doesnt even want to look at it. She is in love with the chapel and thats pretty much it (though she hasnt said it in a mean way) She loves the park thats its in which is good for pictures, her daughter got married there, ect... Im not pitching a fit about it. Im just going to let her "have it" since #1-she is paying for it, #2-She let us have the reception place we wanted Vs. the one she wanted.

Am I doing the right thing but giving up on a part of the wedding that I wish was somewhere else....for letting her have something in this wedding she really wants?

japow1984

Could you get her to compromise and have an outdoor ceremony at Heritage Park by the gazeebo? Or maybe get her excited about another location like the terrace at The Taylor Conservatory(very pretty). Maybe if you are having a bigger wedding party, you could play it at the angle that you aren't sure if the chapel would be big enough.

In the end though, if you go with the chapel, it'll be really pretty! And you'll get some really nice outdoor pictures in the park. Plus, the day of the wedding is so busy and such a great day you'll be happy with whereever your ceremony is.

emarston1

Money = Power.  If she's paying for the majority of this wedding, she gets a say in a majority of the wedding.  Could you have your FI talk to her just to bring her to the other location to see what she says?  Or pay for the chapel yourselves and book the one you want.

rcj2rcd

It's tough when someone else is paying. He who pays says; pick your battle with WR things like this. If the ceremony location is a non-negotiable item for you, then talk to her and find out why she prefers the other location.

klreese0213

i sorta feel you should just let her have it. As pp said, after all she is paying. That chapel is beautiful, however understandably isn't your dream location. Once the day comes you won't be worried about chapel or outside. Not to mention with Michigan weather you NEVER know... indoors is a much safer bet. When you look back at your wedding you wont think "gosh i hated that place" i think more of "i love this man" ya know..

zulamay

You spend more time in the reception hall than the ceremony site, so I'd say: you already won.  

LeahDVM2003

Sounds like a good compromise--you get your hall, but she pays, and she gets her chapel, still paid for.  And you won't have to worry about the heat/rain, like PP said.

missmelanie81

Well we booked the chapel. Im actually at peace with it. I even cried when we were there. It felt right and I could picture myself being married there. So it all worked out.

rcj2rcd

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[QUOTE]Well we booked the chapel. Im actually at peace with it. I even cried when we were there. It felt right and I could picture myself being married there. So it all worked out.
Posted by missmelanie81[/QUOTE]

Very happy to hear that it all worked out :) Those wedding moments when it all hits you are awesome - picturing yourself at the ceremony is definitely one of them :)

scgonzal

I'm glad that it worked  and you went with the chapel out but I'm biased about this place because that's my ceremony site too.