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my mother doesn't understand

 
 hi ladies I need a little help with this one please.....

 My mom and I have always been really close.  The problem is, ever since I got engaged. She's been distant. It's almost like she doesn't want me to get married. ugh! I am so hurt inside. She acted this way when my sister got married. But they are really really close now.  I don't understand what I did. I've talked to her several times and made spending time together about me and her and nothing about the wedding or me getting married. What gives??  I really want a relationship with her, after all I only have one mother.


Anyone have any suggestions??
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Re: my mother doesn't understand

  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011

    From what it sounds like, she's going through some natural emotional issues that arise when your child gets married.  While she most likely is overjoyed for you, it still can be a sad occasion.  It can be hard to accept that your child is an adult and they are ready to get married and start a family of their own.  She may be acting distant because she knows that she won't be able to hide her sad emotions around you and doesn't want you to see that side of her.

    You said yourself that she did the same thing when your sister got married so it's not like this is coming out of left field.  Just let her do her thing (even if it's challenging) and she most likely will come around (as she did with your sister.)  This issue doesn't sound like it's about you, it's her.

    Good luck!

  • edited December 2011
    My mom did the same thing.  I actually had to talk to her about it because it really hurt that she didn't seem supportive.  Our scenario is probably a little different because my father passed away, so my wedding is a very emotional subject for all of us.  But whatever your situation may be, I'm sure your mom is excited for you... it is just hard for parents to see their babies grow up!  I would talk to her about it and let her know her support means a lot to you.  She'll come around.
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  • Melgor78Melgor78 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's just a natural process that I think mom's go though  Mine did the same at first.  She still makes comments that I'm not hers anymore and stuff.  I think my mom is being over dramatic but yes things will change a little bit once your married and start a family but that's the process of life.   Just talk with her and let her know that this won't change your relationship with her.  I'm sure she'll get over it like she did with your sister. 
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