Looking for a dress

lizz91210

I am going dress shopping on Saturday but I don't have a big entourage going.

My Bm and MOH are both busy and it kinda pisses me off that they are making other things like shopping a bigger priority.  These are the only 2 girls I'm thinking about having.  I am not friends with many other females.

I will have my mom with me but of course she will be biased.

My aunt has alzheimer's and although I'm close with her she would be biased also and would not remember dress 3 from dress 8.

My grandma is sick and having surgery.  She also can't sit for a long time.

Nick's (fiance) parents live out of town and neither of us has sisters.

I would ask my cousin but she has a liittle son and is pregnant again, so the chances of someone watching her kid and her feeling up to going are pretty slim.



PLEASE HELP!!!

LISA R

Hello congrats, welcome and happy planning. I think you will have a great time dress shopping. On the other hand, I went dress shopping alone because like myself everyone in my wedding party has a family and lives that did not revolve around my wedding. You do not need and entourage to go shopping. You have to realise that your MOH and BM have lives and that they might not be able to make your shopping trip. The important thing is that they will be there on the day of your wedding.

I can tell that you have set yourself up to be disappointed. When you chouse your MOH you had certain expectations of her. Wrong! She doesn't have to do anything.

By the way this is just my opinion. It sucks that she wont be going shopping with you, but one of the most important people in your life will be there. Your mum!

Have fun and please come back with pictures.

sunkissed212

Congratulations and welcome!!

I just went dress shopping last month and the only person that I took with me was my mom. She was the only one I wanted there. I did not want any of my BM's or other friends/relatives with me because people have opinions and remember that this is YOUR wedding dress. The more people that accompany you on your shopping trip, the more opinions you are going to have on every single dress that you try on.  My personal preference was to have my mom and only my mom with me.  Of course we didn't love the same dresses but she supported me and my opinions, and offered hers in a respectful way. In the end, I picked a dress that I fell in love with the minute I put it on. It wasn't her favorite, but she knew it was mine and that was all that mattered.

I agree with pp. Your MOH and BM have no obligation to go dress shopping with you. And for you to be this upset with them because they have other priorities than that, to me, is unreasonable. Your wedding dress is not their top priority, plain and simple. And there's nothing wrong with that. 

I think that something that many brides need to wrap their head around when they begin the planning process is that no one will be as excited about your wedding as you will be. When I first started planning I was telling everyone every little thing I did because I thought everyone would be just as geeked as I was about every little detail.....that wasn't the case. I am sorry that you are upset with them but I really think you need to step back and realize that this is your day, and getting upset over things like this is just going to make the planning process miserable. Enjoy the planning. Don't take other people's opinions personally. Your MOH and your BM love you and that's why they have agreed to be in your wedding. That doesn't mean that they have to hold your hand through the entire planning process.

All that being said, I hope that you can enjoy your shopping trip this weekend and I hope that you find THE DRESS!! Don't worry about anyone else but you, and you will have a great time!! Good luck!

jodyk23

You don't have to buy a dress on your first time shopping, so I wouldn't worry that you only have your mom going with you. I went shopping 3 times: once with my mom and aunt, once with my MOH, a bridesmaid and 2 friends, and another time with my MOH, mom, and sister-in-law. It will be a great experience for you to have the first trip with your momYes, my mom LOVED about every dress I tried on. I was just looking the first trip and trying to get a handle on what I wanted. . If you don't find "the one", you can go again with friends/BMs. Try not to stress out too much about it and have fun!

corinne2010

I agree with pp. You don't really want to go dress shopping with more than just one person. Then they will tell you their opinions and it will be too difficult to find one!

You should never expect your MOH and BM to go with you. The only thing they have to do is show up for the wedding! Sure it would be nice, but you are the only one that is going to be excited about the wedding and dress shopping. I bet your mom will really like that its just going to be the two of you. Every mom dreams of taking their daughter wedding dress shopping. When I went shopping, I went with my mom and my two MOH. I told them the days I was going to go and if they couldn't make it, no big deal. But I actually found my dress when I was just with my mom. And I'm glad it was that way. It was a day I will seriously never forget.

I think you are getting all bent out of shape for nothing. Just go and have fun with your mom. She is all you need there! Don't forget to have fun!

boogerbearoriginal

I don't know that I can say anything more than what everyone else said except DITTO.

So what if they can't go? My MOH didn't see my dress until it came in another BM still hasn't seen it. They have lives and things they want to do. Make it a special day with you and your mom - it will be that much more meaningful than a dress shop full of people.

I recommend going alone at least once too,  to see how you feel about the dresses without anyone else's opinion.

Julz629

I think it's a blessing that you don't have a handful of people going with you.  Everyone will have different opinions and you won't be able to please everyone with your choice.  I went with just my mom and sister and I think it was best because they are very similar in taste with each other, and with me, as well. 

And trust me, my mom was NOT biased.  My mom will be the first to tell me when something looks terrible on me or when she hates it.  Not in a rude or demeaning way, but just bluntly "absolutely not."  I can also tell you that when I found "the dress," no one could have said anything to me to talk me out of it.

But I agree with all the others -- your MOH and BM(s) don't have any "responsibilities" other than showing up the day of the wedding in the dress and standing by your side.  Of course, we all hope they'll do more throughout the wedding planning process, but if you don't EXPECT it, you'll never be disappointed.