How did you know when the dress was "the one"?!

Kris0816

Hi,

I just started shopping last weekend for a dress. I tried on about 10 narrowed it down to three, then one (which is all I am thinking about). I tried on 4 more today at another store and was not liking any of them. Did anyone find it nuts to find the first one in the first store and then still look a little more...or just save yourself the time and go with your instincts (even if you would still come back to that one)?!?!?

Thanks for any advice!
Kris

BellaSposa223

When I got my first dress, I liked it but I wasn't in love. I got it because my mom loved it on me. Flash forward to April and losing 70 lbs. I got paranoid because my dress was huge and I just wanted to try on more to make sure I wasn't crazy for not liking my dress. I tried like 6 dresses on and when I tried on the new dress I said this is pretty much it. You just know. It was more me (more blingy) and I loved it. That was the difference, I loved my 2nd dress where as I didn't the first. The one you picked, do you love it?

Jaimie

Jenni83

i copied this from my bio but its my dress story.

The day after getting engaged i went online and printed out a dress i fell inlove with,i brought it to the store in my town but they didnt have it instock anymore,my consultant brought out a dress that kind of looked like the one i printed out but i was so upset that i didnt even want to try it on,6 hours later i still hadnt found a dress i liked,with alot of convincing from my mom i decided to try on the dress my consultant had, the minuet i put it on i knew it was the dress for me, i got butterflies in my stomach & my mom started to cry,the lace,the beading,everything about it was what i had dreamed my dress would look like since i was a little girl

jcasey513

hi Kris, I found my dream dress while looking in Brides Magazine. I shrugged it off because it was a designer gown and I was on a strict budget and comeon if it was in a magazine it had to be pricy. I went online and they had no local dealers in NY, and it would cost $200 to get a sample in... not im my budget.... So, I went to Davids bridal and tried on 10 or so, none worked, then I called my Moms small local bridal store in CT and another about 20 mins from them since I was visiting for the weekend. The further one never returned my call, so I went to the small one knowing they wouldn't have as much of a selection. I found out they had my dream dress' sister line so I thought I might find a similar one. So, here I come all excited to try on more. and the sales lady asked what I liked, I said Oh i really wanted this one gown (and described it) and said but you guys only have their sister line. She said yeah..brb and I thought she went to help a customer checkout. a minute later... she tapped on my shoulder ...i turned and THERE IT WAS!! They just got it in! Omg it more more beautiful in person!!I was scared to look at the tag but it was amazingly in my budget! Oh I was in heaven... till I saw the sample was a size 6! Im a 12.... but with some amazing undergarments... it fit (shockingly well actually) so I could see the look!.... yup then mom made me try on 10 more dresses to make sure it was " The One"... they all didn't compare to that first one, I spent 2 seconds in each one and kept sayin Nope!.. So I ordered my dream dress and  I just got it in last month and it is perfect... just need a bustle. and im ready to walk down the aisle! Not sure this will help you any.... I just know when it's "the one" you know it. Good Luck!

mrsredmoose

I ended up buying the first dress I tried on, but I did visit 2 other salons to be sure. My friend picked out the dress for me, and it was something I wouldn't have tried on my own.

I really do like my dress, but to be honest, I didn't really love any of them.  I thought I loved the dress I bought, but sometimes I feel like we should "take a break from each other" and I should start looking again.  I'm just chalking these feelings up to part of the process; I think a lot of brides go through this. I felt a little rushed buying the dress b/c we are having a short engagement and I had to decide quickly- otherwise I would have looked at many more places.

I think it's smart that you kept looking- you'll be more confident in whatever decision you make.

kristinanddan

I had called the salon asking if they had a few samples of certain dresses. They had some, but recommended a few others over the phone. One of them was this dress that I thought looked so ugly on the model. It was the 2nd dress they put me in at the salon, and I just knew it was the one. It's amazing how different a dress can look on different people. I tried on a bunch more that day but nothing else compared. I went back a few weeks later to try it on again and make sure it was still the one and it was!

smooth84

I saw my dress in the window even before I was engaged. It just stood out to me. Fast forward to when I was actually engaged (which was about 1-2wks later) and this was the second store I went to. I actually took the dress off the mannequin. As soon as I put it on, I felt beautiful. It had the fit and details that I wanted and more. Plus I didn't want to take it off and couldn't wipe the huge smile off my face. My BFF even mentioned that it had to be the one cause I was grinning so much. Then I began to come up with excuses as to why I couldn't make the other appointments I had scheduled that day. Then I knew it was it, I left the store with it in my hands! I thought it was too easy, but when you know, you know and if you're still thinking about the dress it sounds like you know.

Aprilfools2011

Kris,

I fell in love with a dress I saw on the knot, the designer was only sold in two places in the area.  I went to one place in Yonkers and they didn't have the dress I saw on the knot but they had other dresses by the designer.  The first dress I put on I fell in love with.  I felt like the dress was made for me.  I even got a little choked up once the veil was put on.  But even though I loved that dress I wanted to try on the original dress I had seen on the knot.  I found another shop that had both dresses.  I tried on the knot dress and it just wasn't right.  When I put on the first dress I tried on again I could not stop smiling.  All my bridesmaids, mother and mother in law said that when I put on that dress i lite up. 

I think there is nothing wrong with buying the first dress you fall in love with but why not try on a few more, if after trying on other dresses you keep thinking about that one dress, it's the one. 

ssage

I had pulled out some ideas in bridal magazines but went into the store with an open mind...knowning that this is their business and they know what looks good on certain body types.  I tried on about 6 or 7 and my eventual dress was #3. 

I only went back to try on other dresses because of my mother...and within those dresses was the one (the #3 dress).  I didn't have one of those crying moments...I just knew it was the one.

bfernz

My friends told me-lol.  One of my friends even cried and I didn't get that reaction with any other dress.  The dress styles that I thought I liked, actually looked terrible on me.  The dress I bought was actually in the second store I went to, but I went to a few more places after trying it on just to be sure.  GL!

psichick

the designer of my dress picked it out for me, and it's perfect. 

after i got engaged my cousin/MOH called me and told me she had made an appointment for me at kleinfeld. um....ok sure why not. i went in and started trying on dresses. i found one that i really liked. we didn't purchase that day though, as i wasn't completely sure. so we made another appointment for about a month later, and this time brought a few extra people with us (not a great idea honestly). i tried on a few more dresses (yea i tried on like 40 in total.....i was difficult) and was actually wearing a lazaro at one point. the consultant said "you know it's lazaro's trunk show this weekend, i'll be right back" and she walked out and came back about two minutes later with lazaro. he looked at me and basically said "no i have a better dress for you" and went and got the dress. i LOVED it. it was everything i was looking for, and everyone else with me loved it too. i just knew that it was the dress i wanted to get married in!

JSweetieXO

I knew when I felt more like WOW when I put it on (plus more comfortable since it has straps) instead of looking like a princessy bride.

ktwed09

My dress was actually a combination of the first two I put on.  I put the first one on, and my mom and I loved it, but it was strapless and I didn't want strapless.  So, we put the second one on, which was made by the same designer, and LOVED the top, but the bottom was a gauzy material I didn't like.  The owner of the bridal shop told me I could order my dress to have the top of the second dress with the skirt of the first dress, and in satin.  I was skeptical because I wouldn't be able to see it ahead of time, and how could it be that the first two dresses were "the ones"?  I tried on a bunch of more dresses that day, but none of them made me feel like the first ones.  I left and thought it over for a while before going back and putting in the order for my dress, and never looked back. 

DOLLIE.17

Hi Kris, 

When you try on the dress for you, you will look at yourself and feel like a princess. You will feel like the dress was made for you. 

When I found my dress, It truly felt like I was getting married. My mom started to cry, and my step daughter was so happy, so got up when she saw me, and started hugging me.

You will know when you have tried it on Maybe not on your first trip, but there is a dress out there that was made just for you. You  just have to find it.

Good Luck.

gnyzgrl

Hi Kris,  I work in a boutique in Lagrangeville (we are part new part consignment).  My FI is a Marine and every year we attend the Marine Corp ball.  I was trying on a dress that I intended to buy for the ball, my daughter said to me..... "Mom, that dress is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen you in.  You're gonna get married in that."  At the time I wasn't even engaged yet.  A customer then walked in the room and saw me in the dress, she asked if that was my wedding dress; at that point I knew that was my dress.  Cut to 3 months later, I had just gotten engaged showed up for work and there was the dress hanging with a card from the owner and my coworkers congratulating me on my engagement.  The dress is sitting in my closet screaming to be worn...... It's my Cinderalla dress for sure.

.jae.

I'll be honest and say I never had that "OMG this is the one" moment where you tear up and gets emotional. My dress shopping process was a long one. I tried on easily over 100 dresses at boutiques in three different states. I really liked a lot of them and could see myself wearing any one of them, but I never got that feeling.

I finally picked the one I loved the most, the one I kept going back to. I was so happy with my choice-- until it came in. By my second fitting I was pretty unhappy because it was clear that even though I do love the dress so much and think it's gorgeous, I knew deep down I would be uncomfortable in it all night long, and I just really don't want that. So I panicked and rush ordered my second favorite dress. It should arrive today, 17 days before my wedding.

So I hope this didn't scare you, but my best advice would be to be absolutely sure about the dress. Not everyone has that moment where you just know. Sometimes it's just about making the best choice for you and it might not necessarily be the one you love the most. But I hope it is for you! Good luck

Kris0816

To everyone thanks so much for sharing your exeriences! Feel much better. This whole process is so overwhelming at times!

Jae - THANK YOU! I feel much better after reading your experience! That's very true.

I made an appointment with another shop this weekend, so we shall see how it goes.

Thanks ladies!

ssage

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_did-dress-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:113Discussion:b4b65070-734f-4487-8429-4c1007166599Post:45e6338d-9802-435b-9409-ffb38740597c">Re: How did you know when the dress was "the one"?!</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi Kris,  I work in a boutique in Lagrangeville (we are part new part consignment).  My FI is a Marine and every year we attend the Marine Corp ball.  I was trying on a dress that I intended to buy for the ball, my daughter said to me..... "Mom, that dress is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen you in.  You're gonna get married in that."  At the time I wasn't even engaged yet.  A customer then walked in the room and saw me in the dress, she asked if that was my wedding dress; at that point I knew that was my dress.  Cut to 3 months later, I had just gotten engaged showed up for work and there was the dress hanging with a card from the owner and my coworkers congratulating me on my engagement.  The dress is sitting in my closet screaming to be worn...... It's my Cinderalla dress for sure.
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crystal's closet?

Kris0816

Yeah definately hs to be Crystal's Closet! I have gotten many dresses there for weddings I was a guest at. They also participate in the fashion show my agency does!

TerriandJoe

When it's the dress you just can't stop thinking about. AND aren't wondering what else is out there.

My dress was the last dress that I seriously tried on. But I actually knew it was the dress at another dress shop when I was wondering what was I doing there. I had wanted to see all the shops to see if any had the perfect dress.

There was a dress that I liked. and I really liked it. And thought it was going to be the one. I had seen it before we got engaged, so by time I was ready to buy, I had been looking at that dress for a year. And was just curious what was out there (I didn't want to buy my dress more than a year before the wedding)

So at the year before point, I started looking on the knot, on the bigger designers websites, and at area stores to see different dress styles. I didn't know what I was looking for - other than something that made me look pretty. And thin!

I found a dress that I liked at an area store, but it was discontinued and they would only let me buy the sample. I went onto that company's site, found another store in the area that could order me the dress, but i would have to buy to sight unseen. (the store with the discontinued sample had ivory/pink and I wanted white)

So I went to the dress board on the knot to ask about affordable designers. Just to see if there were other designers that I wasnt aware of.

Someone suggested Group USA which has teh store Camille la Vie in the Palasades Mall. I went to their website.And found a copycat of the dress I was searching for! I called the store to see if they had the dress. And they did, in white!
I told my mom and she and I went the next day to see it. When we got there, my consultant suggested I try another dress on. I said no. I tried on 5 and was happy with the dress that I liked.

But part of me wanted to try that other dress on. So I drove myself back about  a week later and tried on only two dresses. They dress that I liked, but didn't like the hem on. And the other one with the empire band. Every other dress that I tried with an empire band looked horrible on me, but something was different about this one. And I had too see it on.

I put on the dress I liked. And I still liked it, just not the hem. And then I tried on the other dress. OMG I looked in the mirror and was like wow! I got a knot in my stomach, and my throat got a little choked up. And it was annoying that I was by myself!

I had the consultant take pictures of both. Went to the girls on the dress board and they automatically picked the other dress. Which by now, I couldn't get out of my mind.

But there was still a local store that i wanted to go to. jut to see what they had. I went it and it did not feel exciting. And when I put the first dress at that store on, I knew that the "other" dress at Camille la Vie was MY DRESS.

Went back with my mom and sisters and they even said it was no contest.

I loved it! It made me feel beautiful and it was appropriate. It was perfect!

Have fun shopping. and trust that you will just know. GL!

I was thrilled!