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B-list etiquette, WDYT?

We have gotten some surprise no's back recently and it looks like we will have some open space at our tables. I started a new job in January, and so while planning, it hasn't been an assumption that they would get an invite. My former boss is coming from TX, because we really bonded, but I have been silent about things with my coworkers as much as I can. There are say 5 people I work directly with, other practitioners and office staff, plus their spouses/sig others, that I think I'd like to invite. (Well, really 4 but I really couldn't diss the one.) It's looking like we could do 10 people without breaking the budget badly. And, that's one full table. But that doesn't include my boss and her husband, her father who owns the company and works here, and his wife. Or the two women with offices in between. I can't very well invite everyone on this floor and not them. One of those women is the "real" authority, as she oversees the finances. That's 8 more, and 18 does break the budget. Plus, I'm not very close with any of them and do not particularly want it to be anything but professional between myself and that side of the hallway. Do I: A) invite everyone: the bosses need to come if I invite anyone B) Just the 10: the bosses will understand C)Invite no one from work.
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    edited December 2011
    I'd invite the 10... you are friendly with them and would enjoy having them at your wedding. As for the other people, just cause you work together doesn't necessarily mean an in to a wedding. Unless there are crazy office politics that you'll have to deal with... hth!
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    edited December 2011
    It's good etiquette to invite your boss if you are inviting other coworkers, especially a larger group of them (5 coworkers is a decent amount). If I were you, I would not invite the coworkers and pocket the extra $ for a sweet honeymoon, bigger down payment, or fancy pants dinner when you get back from wedding-mania. JMHO. GL.
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    edited December 2011
    If you really feel like your coworkers have become close friends and want to invite them, I would.  If you aren't close with your boss, I wouldn't.  Chances are your boss wouldn't want to come to such a personal event anyway, and I've never really bought into inviting people because it's the "customary" thing to do.  If you don't really consider these folks to be friends of yours I would just not invite them.  Celebrate with the people you feel closest to.My coworkers know all about my wedding plans and are happy for me, but also know that I am not inviting anyone from work.  You shouldn't feel obligated to invite coworkers or supervisors, especially if it would strain your finances.
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks, guys. Your feedback is helpful. I was talking to FI last night too, and he weighed in too. He thinks that it isn't a good idea to invite any of my co-workers because of the politics, and there are people who don't belong there who I'd feel obligated to invite. While it would have been nice to party with some of them, maybe I'll just invite those guys out for drinks some other time. I was really torn. Now I feel better about this. Thanks.
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