FI and I have a 2.5 year engagement. We picked our wedding date the night we got engaged. We had an engagement party about 3 months after we got engaged. We went to dinner with our families and then had dessert/apps at a bigger party with friends/coworkers/extended relatives at Boston Billiard Club (we wanted to celebrate with a larger group right away since our wedding was so far off). So a few of the people who we invited to the engagement party we aren't really close to anymore. Some didn't come to the engagement party and others came, but that was literally the last time we've seen them. I KNOW that etiquette says that you invite everyone who was invited to the engagement party to the wedding, but where it's been so long (over a year and a half), is it tacky if we don't invite them to the wedding? Or even more importantly, would you be hurt or offended if you were the drifting friend in this case? The other question is what about coworkers who came to the engagement party, and I see all the time, but aren't super close to anymore. A few of them too, I am close to now, but I don't really see myself keeping in touch after I change jobs (most likely about 3 months after our wedding).We are working on our STDs and getting our guest list "finalized" and this has been nagging me. We'd love to invite everyone, but because of the size of our venues, realistically we need to cut our dream guest list by about half (from 300+ to 135 MAX), and where we are already cutting relatives, I'd feel bad if we included these non-friends instead. Any thoughts?
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My hubby & I rock the frock.