Groomswoman? Groomsmaid?

lundar

Has anyone been to weddings with a girl on the groom's side? And if so, do you have any thoughts on the idea? My FI and I have been discussing him asking one of his friends from college who is a girl (but was never a girlfriend) and I think it's a fine idea but some other people have mentioned that it might take away from the wedding because people will talk and wonder why she's up there on his side. Thanks!

evseidl

We had a groomsmaid-- and not a single person asked about the concept, or thought it was weird.  We were particular in the dress selection to help with any confusion---- such as the groomsmaid being in the same dress style of the other bridesmaids, but in a black (as opposed to the chocolate) to blend a bit more with the groomsmen's tuxes.

We loved having our groomsmaid up there, it was something different.

Good luck!

Shazzie116

I have seen this with a girl on the grooms side and a guy on the brides side. I think it's becoming more common, along with uneven sided wedding parties and whatnot. I really don't think it would tke away from the wedding, if anything they'd be like "Hey! That's cool!" At least I'd hope so

JBs_Bride

We're having a groomsmaid. She's one of FI's cousins. She's wearing the same dress as the bridesmaids, but in black. It was important to FI to include her since they grew up together and have seen each other through a lot.

Merri2002

My sister had a groomswoman in her wedding. She was a close friend of her husband so she stood on his side. She wore the same dress as the bridesmaids in the same color too. No one really questioned why and figured there was a good reason.

jonnysbride2010

FI was actually the "man of honor" or "honor attendant" for his sister's wedding. They are super close and she wanted him to be on her side. Everyone thought it was really special and didn't take away from the ceremony at all!

nikkiblueeyes823

My friend had 3 girls on his side.  2 were his best women. And then there was me.  I wore what the other girls wore and I stood on her side.  The best women wore a darker shade of the dress. 

The bride had her brother and sister in law as her man of honor and matron of honor.

Nobody thought anything of it except for the old old people.

october010bride

I've seen it done both ways... guy on girls side, girl on guys side and I think its TOTALLY fine. I highly doubt anyone will actually care and or talk about it.

Pick who you want, it'll make the day even more special!

EKobrenski

My brother is my Man of Honor, so I'm all for it.  I don't think it will take away from the wedding- it's not a hard concept to get. 

FutureMrsJRoberts

My brother asked to be a groomswoman and it meant a lot to me. I've also seen it at quite a few weddings we've been to in the last couple of years (2 best women - very funny toasts "sometimes the best man for the job is a woman")

I think as long as you choose the outfits carefully then it wil be clear - j crew do all sorts of colors and so you could have the groomswoman wear the same dress but in the grooms colors.

Do you have a close guy/brother - you could have a bridesman to even it out?

lundar

I've already got too many people on my side and no brothers, but I'm fine with it being a little uneven. I'm really fine with the whole thing, I was just wondering if anyone had been at weddings where it became an issue or people talked/gossiped. Thanks for all the ideas about attire. I'm excited about the groomswoman Now I just have to decide how to refer to her in the program...

mspeert

We're doing a similar thing - my fiance wants his 2 sisters on his side.  So, I'm having my 2 sisters and my best friend (female) and he's having his 2 sisters  and his best friend (male).  At first I was a little unsure about the idea but the more I think about it the more I like it.  It's very special!  His sisters actually told him they wanted to stand up for him.

Now, as for them wanting to throw him a bachelor party...he's not so wild about the idea

megandjay

My fiance is having his sister as his best woman. So far, no one has thought it was weird, since they are very close friends- she is his best friend so it makes sense. I have a traditional Irish Catholic family, and so if they aren't judgemental, I don't know who would be! (jk.)

I also wonder- how did people refer to them in the Programs? Best Woman??? I hadn't even thought of this before reading your post! I will have to think on it, but any ideas are welcome!