Have you ever heard of this?

Blueyed228

My FMIL called me last night.  She asked me if I ever heard of the mother walking her son down the isle.  She saw it at 2 weddings in FLA.  She seems really excited about the idea, and Im not opposed to it, as long as it works out so he doesnt see me!

Is this a new thing?  WHat would you think if you saw it?  If it is something she is excited about doing, then I would love for her to do it.  Im just not sure how the mechanics of it work.

TIA!

killian09

In Jewish weddings, both parents walk down the aisle.  So the groom walks down with mother & father, and then the bride walks with her mother and father.  So I think it is definitely not a new thing!  I thought it was a wonderful tradition though, so that all parents are equally involved. 

Logistically, the groom and his parents walked first.  Then the bridal party went, then the flower girls and ring bearers, and then the bride and parents last.

...what logistics are you concerned about?  i don't really see how it is any more complicated that way. 

BostonBride919

My husband escorted his mom down the aisle per her request. HIs Dad walked behind them. I honestly don't think anyone other than family noticed But it made her happy!!! You can see the pics in my bio

Blueyed228

I just meant how will he be able to do that without being in the hallway with us and seeing me in my dress.

Does he start at the alter and then come meet his mom?

Shazzie116

FMIL wanted to do that, but there's no way it would have worked without DH seeing me (I wasn't going to hang out outside or by myself in the limo in January while everyone else was lining up to process). It's a nice idea, and if your ceremony space allows for it, great! 

Might be a touchy subject, but is his dad not in the picture? DH's dad walked MIL down the aisle for our wedding. 

Blueyed228

His dad is in the picture, but he and his mom are super close.  He is a first born italian boy, lol.

Thats what I was thinking tho, I dont want to be waiting outside, epecially in November!

LexiMS

If there is a door to the back of the ceremony area, they could allow him and Mom in, close the doors, and then get you in position. We are probably having the same set up as Killian, as it is a jewish tradition that we want to incorporate.

BostonBride919

Mine is also the first born Italian boy

There was a back room they had me and the bridesmaids in before the ceremony - Ask your ceremony site coordinator where the bride typically waits

EKobrenski

My FILs did this at their Catholic wedding.  FMIL said she waited in the church basement (which is usually a function room), then came up as the BMs were walking down.  Most churches have an elevator for handicapped people too, so you don't have to clip clop up the stairs in your heels. 

annakiwi

Hi!
I am not a bride but I am a DJ and have DJ'd hundreds of ceremonies.  Usually the moms are seated once all of the other guests are seated and  just before the Wedding party procession begins.  Just before that, the groom and his ushers would get into their places.  If you had your fiance escort his mom to her seat at the normal point of the seating of the mothers it should work out fine.  Then, you and your bridal party will line up just after the moms are seated.  If you're concerned about your fiance seeing you, you could have him in place as normal and then have his mom  step into the ceremony area and he could walk down the aisle to meet her and bring her to her seat.  I've had several Mother's of the Groom ask to be seated by her son over the years and it has always worked out fine.  Is your ceremony at a church or at your reception site?  If it's at the reception site and it's at a place I've been, I may have some other ideas for you.  Good Luck !

Shazzie116

If there's a place for you to wait, I say go for it! I didn't have that option. It all turned out ok though, because we still got married.

Hadley2B

My husband also escorted his mom down the aisle with his dad following close by.  I have seen over 100 weddings and had only seen it in about 10 of them, but when I did see it, I thought it was very sweet!

Hadley2B

I was outside with my dad while the wedding party made their way down the aisle and of course my husband walked down first with his mom....once he was down and most of the wedding party was down, we entered the church and it was perfect!

jkepros

We're actually having my FMIL & FFIL walk together first, then have FI escort MY mother, and then my dad escort me.  We don't have any bridal party & don't care about seeing each other beforehand, but I am sure you can work out the logistics so that you don't see each other beforehand if that's important to you.