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Things you don't get

moving to an apartment complex with lots of dogs when your own dogs hate other dogs.

Story - this grumpy old guy with 2 small yapping type dogs just moved into the building. He yells and is snippy with us over Chef D. For example yesterday Chef D was sitting on the carpet about 15 feet away waiting for the elevator to open. When the doors opened the old guy's dogs started pulling and barking at Chef, who by the way was still sitting. The guy snapped at us to move our dog. So we moved the extra foot backing us into the wall.

Later that night I was taking Chef out and stopped to talk to the new guard. The old man was trying to come back in from taking his dogs out. He was mad we were in the lobby. Actually asked us to move so he could come in with his dogs.

I'm sure it must be stressful to have non-socialized digs, but he is really pissing me off. Our dog is not doing anything wrong. He is not barking or pulling, they are. He has always socialized with the staff, I hate he gives us the stink eye because our dog is socializing with the staff in the lobby.

For the vent. He just out me in a bad mood.






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  • edited June 2012
    Well along the line of dogs - I don't get why people take dogs that don't get along with other dogs to the damn dog park.

    Lucy and I went last week and we saw this weird old couple that we see there often, with their two asshole chihuahuas.  Those dogs are complete assholes.  They hate every dog that comes near them and they bark their face off and bite.  I have no idea why these weirdos bring those douches to the park.

    Anyway one of the dogs Lucy was playing with - a Scottie - went over to say hi to these little demon dogs and they both flipped their shiiit and practically attacked the Scottie.  So the Scottie got defensive and bit one of them.  Of course the weirdos got upset and and the lady with the Scottie left.  Just pissed me off.

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  • He sounds like an ass. If my dogs were doing that, I'd be apologizing to you instead of blaming you. Jerk face. 

    I don't get people that think just because you're white, you're going to appreciate racist statements. I was at Sam's Club the other day with my grandfather. A Mexican family was standing outside of the bathroom waiting for it to reopen (it was being cleaned). An older lady was trying to get past. She said in a snide tone of voice that they should move up so other people could get by. The family pretty much ignored her completely. She finally gets through and sees me and says "Probably don't even speak English." while rolling her eyes, obviously expecting me to commiserate with her. 

    Seriously lady? Just becase I'm NOT Mexican doesn't mean that I'm going to be racist with you. Lame. 
  • I don't get that either. I've seen that before also. It makes me even happier we socialized Chef from the beginning.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • OMG Poke I hate that.

    I don't get the need for some to communicate their every thought throughout the day when you know you're going to see the other person after work. Every once in a while when it's important or something you're likely to forget? Sure. Everysinglethought? Not so much.

    I don't get FB statuses like this:
    Wow "insert uncapitalized mother of his child here" gebelt ok so block me on facebook as if its not bad enough you wont let me see my son at all you now block me on fb so i cant even see recent pics of him. . . Thanks alot
  • Sushi.

    My niece's constant "I'm bored, someone text me" FB status updates.

    How an engineer with a masters can't figure out how to put paper in a printer. 
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  • I don't get why people need to fish for compliments.  Rosie was talking last week about people on FB who constantly AW that they're going home to make "homemade this and homemade that."  I went to a friend's BBQ this weekend, and it was potluck. One of our friends make a coconut cream pie from scratch.  It was an amazing effort, it looked great and from what people said, it tasted great.  She spent the entire time asking people if they'd tried her pie, telling everyone that it was homemade, from scratch, and how she whipped the meringue with her Kitchenaid, etc. etc. etc.  The compliment fishing was obnoxious as hell.
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  • I don't get couples who have to post their love all over facebook all the damn time.  I know someone who posts EVERY DAY on each other's walls junk like "Good Morning, my sweetie pie!  I love you!"

    It makes me assume that they are about an inch from a divorce and trying to pretend everythings good.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_things-you-dont-get?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:000bea45-5885-44d7-8c3b-14d6c7f83ff9Post:6666c9e9-2cf2-4ee5-8e4e-50e6203ed828">Re: Things you don't get</a>:
    [QUOTE]Sushi. My niece's constant <strong>"I'm bored, someone text me" FB status updates.</strong> How an engineer with a masters can't figure out how to put paper in a printer. 
    Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

    It's even worse when there's hardly, if any, real words in them. Or simply "HMU peeps!"
  • I have some friends whose apartments are always a wreck, when I come over they say, "Sorry about the mess, we just don't clean it cause it's not our house." I don't get it, because you don't own it it's okay to live like pigs. It's not just one friend or couple that have said it, it's quite a few...is that the norm really?
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  • Similar to MUN1- I don't understand people who make FB profiles for their small children and write something every single day on their wall.  Just tell them- they're not going to see it.
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    [QUOTE]Sushi. My niece's constant "I'm bored, someone text me" FB status updates. How an engineer with a masters can't figure out how to put paper in a printer. 
    Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]



    Well I love sushi. I agree with the other 2






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    [QUOTE]I have some friends whose apartments are always a wreck, when I come over they say, "Sorry about the mess, we just don't clean it cause it's not our house." I don't get it, because you don't own it it's okay to live like pigs. It's not just one friend or couple that have said it, it's quite a few...is that the norm really?
    Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

    I'm the complete opposite- I'm worried about my security deposit.
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  • Midge, I'll give her credit for using full words, she even does in texts.  And I have no idea what HMU means.  :)

    WTH Mari?  You still have to live there.  Gross.
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  • I know it's crazy! These people aren't getting that deposit back at all. I hate going to those people's apartments it's disgusting. Mine and H's house doesn't like the cover of a magazine but I promise it's sanitary.
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    [QUOTE]I don't get couples who have to post their love all over facebook all the damn time.  I know someone who posts EVERY DAY on each other's walls junk like "Good Morning, my sweetie pie!  I love you!" It makes me assume that they are about an inch from a divorce and trying to pretend everythings good.
    Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]



    I don't get why any couple posts on there SO's wall at all. I might have responded to a someone else's comment on DH wall before, but I have never wrote or commented on anything he has posted.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Girlie, it's "hit me up". I have one girl in particular on my FB who makes about 48927589247654 posts a day about being bored, being extremely happy, or extremely depressed and life sucks (these are more common). At the end of every single post is "HMU".
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    [QUOTE]I<strong>don't get couples who have to post their love all over facebook all the damn time.  I know someone who posts EVERY DAY on each other's walls junk like "Good Morning, my sweetie pie!  I love you!"</strong>It makes me assume that they are about an inch from a divorce and trying to pretend everythings good.
    Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

    Oh I have a friend like that. It is SO FUCKING ANNOYING. H refuses to get a facebook but he will sometimes read their comments and he gets annoyed too, and he doesn't even have to see it every day!
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    [QUOTE]Girlie, it's "hit me up". I have one girl in particular on my FB who makes about 48927589247654 posts a day about being bored, being extremely happy, or extremely depressed and life sucks (these are more common). At the end of every single post is "HMU".
    Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

    Is that what it means? My 16 year old cousin must post that they dang day and I had no clue what she was talking about. That and planking...took me forever to figure that out.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Things you don't get : I don't get why any couple posts on there SO's wall at all. I might have responded to a someone else's comment on DH wall before, but I have never wrote or commented on anything he has posted.
    Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

    H and I have commented on each others posts, but it's always stuff you don't talk about in life.  It's like, he posts a picture, and I remark on the picture. 

    Never "pick up milk on your way home" or "I wuv you snuggums"
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    [QUOTE]I agree about the FB thing. I don't know if I'm just super cynical, but if I see someone super over-the-top bragging about something, I always assume they are just trying to over compensate. I might brag about H (like I posted a few weeks ago about building the pergola) but I got over the loveydovey wall posts several years ago. ::super mature now hair flip::
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

    Yeah i'll brag about H sometimes but that's as far as it goes.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Things you don't get : H and I have commented on each others posts, but it's always stuff you don't talk about in life.  It's like, he posts a picture, and I remark on the picture.  Never "pick up milk on your way home" or <strong>"I wuv you snuggums"</strong>
    Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

    <div>Heh.  I'm pretty sure FI would flip if I ever wrote anything even similar to that.</div><div>
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    [QUOTE]I don't get making FB pages for your dogs.  And then sending messages to them.  I love our dogs.  Love. But they're not getting their own FB page ffs. lynda, that dude is a douchenugget.  I think I'd have to start just saying 'No' when he asks you to move.  That or ask them to get control of his dipshit dogs.
    Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]




    We have since found out he doesn't do this to just us. It's every dog. He has made complaints about our friends poodle mix.

    Way to be neighborly.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Things you don't get : We have since found out he doesn't do this to just us. It's every dog. He has made complaints about our friends poodle mix. Way to be neighborly.
    Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

    Well at least it's not just yall but yeah he's a douce.
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  • But how will H know I love him if I don't post it to his wall for all to see every day?  I certainly can't just TELL him, that's no where near public enough.  Heh I typed Publix instead of public.  Mmm, chicken fingers.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Things you don't get : Heh.  I'm pretty sure FI would flip if I ever wrote anything even similar to that.
    Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]

    Mine would think i'd completely lost my mind.
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  • I have a couple on my FB that drags all of their drama out in the open.  The guy leaves every time they fight so they just write back and forth with each other arguing instead of texting. It's interesting.
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  • What a buttmunch Lynda. 

    We had the dogs at the park the other weekend and Fatboy flipped his shlt on some poor dog  walking towards us (very unusual for him, he's usually all tail wags and butt sniffing) and I hightailed it out of there, never once thinking the other dog & human should have to change course. 
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    [QUOTE]I have some friends whose apartments are always a wreck, when I come over they say, "Sorry about the mess, we just don't clean it cause it's not our house." I don't get it, because you don't own it it's okay to live like pigs. It's not just one friend or couple that have said it, it's quite a few...is that the norm really?
    Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

    We clean, but we don't do extras, like painting or upgrades. I definitely have the mindset of "it's not my house, I'm not paying for it" when it comes to things like that. But not keeping the house itself clean? That makes no sense.
  • Ben doesn't have a FB and I'm kinda thankful for that.  I mean, I don't post anything on FB I wouldn't want him to see or anything, but ffs, we are connected in every other way.  I don't necessarily need him on FB.  He says that anyone he needs to keep in touch with, he does, so he doesn't need FB.  I kinda envy that.  And I probably have way too many people on my FB.

    Along with personal space... a little girl, maybe about 5 or 6, came up to me last week at the park and hugged me.  Just out of nowhere.  It was kinda sweet but it was also awkward as hell, I didn't know if I should hug back or wtf.  Plus I was looking around for her dad, worried that he'd think I was doing something inappropriate. 
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