Bridesmaid thank-you's

MyWedding13

I am having trouble writing a thank you to one of my bridesmaids. She and I are not close, do not talk, don't ever really interact....but she was put in my wedding to appease my parents who are paying for everything. I don't want to be rude and not give her a note with her gift, but I really don't know what to say!! Can anyone help me write a generic "thank you for being a part of our wedding" note? Do I even have to say much more than that?

DramaGeek

"Thank you for being a part of our wedding.  It means a lot that you (X, Y and Z - came to the showers, went dress shopping, stood up with us at our wedding, whatever she's done). Being surrounded by those who love us is what makes our wedding day so special.  Thank you for being willing to be a part of that."

futurepivko

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[QUOTE]"Thank you for being a part of our wedding.  It means a lot that you (X, Y and Z - came to the showers, went dress shopping, stood up with us at our wedding, whatever she's done). Being surrounded by those who love us is what makes our wedding day so special.  Thank you for being willing to be a part of that."
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]


thats all it needs to be.

peanutty2

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[QUOTE]"Thank you for being a part of our wedding.  It means a lot that you (X, Y and Z - came to the showers, went dress shopping, stood up with us at our wedding, whatever she's done). Being surrounded by those who love us is what makes our wedding day so special.  Thank you for being willing to be a part of that."
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]
that sounds perfect to me

MyWedding13

Ok, I can't write the part where she has done anything, because she hasn't. She doesn't even answer emails. LIke, this person wants nothing to do with me and I wish she weren't in the wedding. Is it ok to leave that part out? 

SirJuliusVonHaast

Yes, definitely leave out the part about how you wish she wasn't in the wedding. 

It sounds more like you don't *want* to thank her, than like you don't know what to say. Just be gracious and thank her. It's a few sentences on a piece of paper. It won't kill you. 

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]<strong>Yes, definitely leave out the part about how you wish she wasn't in the wedding.</strong>  It sounds more like you don't *want* to thank her, than like you don't know what to say. Just be gracious and thank her. It's a few sentences on a piece of paper. It won't kill you. 
Posted by SirJuliusVonHaast[/QUOTE]


Edit: I think she meant leave out the part about doing stuff.  (I mis-read it, too).

SirJuliusVonHaast

I know. Sorry . . . I was being snarky. 

Mrs.B6302007

In addition to the wording mentioned above you could say Thank you again for being in our wedding party and for helping us celebrate such a memorable event in our lives.   

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I know. Sorry . . . I was being snarky. 
Posted by SirJuliusVonHaast[/QUOTE]


LOL  I wondered (knowing your posting style) but then I was like, "what if she wasn't?"  =-)

MyWedding13

Thanks for your help! I literally didn't know what to thank her for besides being in our wedding, but that came to one sentence, haha. I guess I needed some help BS-ing. 

DramaGeek

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[QUOTE]Thanks for your help! I literally didn't know what to thank her for besides being in our wedding, but that came to one sentence, haha. I guess I needed some help BS-ing. 
Posted by MyWedding13[/QUOTE]

My dad swears my BA in theatre is really a BA in BS ;-)