Dress shopping etiquette?

COlson0812

I am going dress shopping tomorrow with my family (mom, sisters, grandma) and I didn't think to invite my fiance's mother. I was supposed to go three weeks ago, and I invited his mother then but she said she wasn't able to make it. However, my grandpa went into the hospital so we weren't able to go  when planned and now we're going tomorrow instead. Anyway, tonight my fiance' told her that I was going to look for my wedding dress in the morning and she said "oh, that's fun" and then I realized that I didn't invite her this time. I feel slightly bad now - should I call her tomorrow? Does the groom's mother usually go with to look for the dress?

em01092

There is no rule that says anyone in particular must attend. Typically a bride will take someone for a second opinion, but I feel that you have enough already. Too many opinions can be a bad thing (watch a few episodes of SYTTD). 

However, since you asked her previously, I would say you might want to call her asap and see if she'd like to/be able to go this time. Just apologize for not mentioning it sooner as it slipped your mind and you'd still love for her to be there. She may already have plans since you're asking on such short notice. 

toothpastechica

Whoever you want with you to go look is who should be there! I went with just my sister just to look and we found one that day! (since she would be honest with me and also would know how much skin was too much in my moms mind without my mom freaking out). Originally I had planned to make it an outing with my 3 bridesmaids (my sister included, but my sister was moving away so I went with her once first. My mom saw it later, FI's mom will see it on the wedding day.

tenofcups4me

There really isn't a standard. I went with both my parents, but not his mother. She lived a few hours away so it wasn't really an option. I'm not sure if I would have invited her if she lived closer. I did make sure to show her pics so she was still in the loop.

If you'd like her to go, it's not too late. You could just call her tomorrow morning, tell her you're so sorry you meant to ask her to come earlier but with your grandfather having been in the hospital, you're just all scattered right now, etc. etc. etc. (or whatever other thing you feel comfortable saying). Or if you'd rather not, maybe you could ask her to join you next time or for a fitting.

COlson0812

Alright good, I just wanted to make sure that I didn't seem completely rude. Thank you so much for your input ladies!

Avion22

I think it's a little odd that you invited her to go along at first, but then never told her the new time after cancelling the first one.    So yeah, I think you should call and ask her.   

BinxRose

If you never invited her to the original, I wouldn't worry about it. But because you did, I would still extend the offer to her this time.

Simply Fated

You already invited her. The date changed, but you should still follow through.

Starfish0116

I would have invited FI's mother had she lived closer, as a nice gesture, although I don't think it's required. I'm not super close with my mom and I went dress shopping with my BFF/MOH, sister, and another friend. 

specialk84

I would invite her to go this time, since you invited her to go last time. However, if you end up making more than one trip to look at dresses, you don't have to invite her each time.

Sydney91

I didn't take anyone but my camera.