is this rude?

rbtrumpet

I am senidng out my schedule (rehearsal, dinner, party, church opens, ceremony, reception, etc..)

I wanted to add something like:

"I would appreciate it if you could all make it to the rehearsal so we are all on the same page, but I understand it may be a burden for some - please let me know if you can't make it."



is that OK?  haha - I spend too much time here, I'm always second-guessing myself :-p

georgia_bride09

If you're just sending it to WP members, I'd asume they'll make the rehearsal anyway? It seems a little condescending, like you don't think they know they have to be there. If you have to follow-up, I'd do it over the phone. Do you have RSVP's for the RD? That might help.

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I think it might be a little rude the way you have it.

Why not say something like I look forward to seeing everyone there. Let me know if you can't make it for some reason so we can be sure and get you filled in for the ceremony.

rbtrumpet

I'm sending it to everyone - readers, the guy leading our songs, flower girl, ring bearer - BMs, GMs, family....


hmm - I'm not so good with words, any suggestions to phrase it better?

georgia_bride09

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mica178

Why are you sending invitations to the rehearsal?  That's not a party, and it should be assumed attendance by all involved in the wedding (readers, attendants, etc.).  I would communicate all of the stuff you mentioned verbally.  If you're worried that people will forget, send out an email.  But in print, two dimensional words have more of a chance of offending.

rbtrumpet

I'm not sending out an invitation, it's a schedule - timelines, locations, important info.

I think I'll just take that paragraph out.

Thanks

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I think it's sort of unnecessary. If they can't get off of work or something, they'll tell you. When you get an invitation, it's sort of assumed you'll try your best to be there and people who are WP members know it's important.

andyandhillary

I'm going to go against the grain here only because I had 2 members of my BP who didn't plan accordingly and one even missed the rehearsal.  I think what you have sounds find, especially if the people in your BP are "ditzy".

Beachy730

i think you are fine to mention contacting you if they can't make it.  But when you say "if its a burden" it gets a little condescending.

How are you sending this out?  If its informal as it sounds then email is fine.  We honestly sent our RD "invites" out through facebook, email, and word of mouth.  The readers got it through email when I sent them the reading, and the WP got it through facebook.  So you are definitely fine to send a non-formal invite in one of those ways.

As for missing it, I would say something like:

We are hoping to have a run through with everyone involved with the wedding.  If you are unable to make it for whatever reason please let me know and we can discuss the ceremony line-up.

Or something along those lines.