Miss Manners

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Dear Miss Manners: I am a bride and I’m worried that people will turn up to my wedding wearing white.

I want to know the proper etiquette in dealing with such people. Is it appropriate to have the fashion police present to tell people to go back home and change their dress?

I don’t think I will be able to deal with anybody that tries to upstage me on the most important day of my life. A lot of time, money and effort has gone into the preparations for this day, and I don’t want it ruined by people that are rude! I don’t want my photos, video or memories tarnished because of someone else’s bad manners.

Gentle Reader: Oh, a bouncer to eject anyone who might threaten the supremacy of the bride! Why isn’t that a standard role in every wedding party?

Possibly because there are few brides—at least so Miss Manners hopes—pathetic enough to fear that they will not be sufficiently noticed at their own weddings and mean enough to anticipate rivals among their own guests.

Guests must be treated with respect, and that includes anyone who may be dressed in white. What would really tarnish your wedding pictures is the sight of you keeping a steely eye out to make sure no one upstages you, instead of gazing lovingly at your bridegroom.

xyrius

I find it hard to believe that there are people out there who are really like that.  I like Miss. Manner's response though.

Stackeye210

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_miss-manners?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:012deb4e-e4be-45bb-b79e-3c4e9bbd386cPost:88bee8c1-324a-4afb-9c43-0e380fac55e2">Re: Miss Manners</a>:
[QUOTE]I find it hard to believe that there are people out there who are really like that.  I like Miss. Manner's response though.
Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE]

Oh stick around.  You'll be surprised

imsmall227

Love the response!

louisvillebride21

I don't like the word 'bridegroom'. It's weird.

Birdie1483

Me either louisville. It's never sounded right to me.

I'm glad Miss Manners laid the verbal smackdown and wasn't like "well honey thats probably not the best option but..."

parker624

Loved Miss Manners response! 

I had posted a question about guests asking me if they could wear white a few months back.  That guest who asked me ended up not wearing white, but I noticed at least 3 other guests who were wearing white.  I could have cared less.

jayjoe

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_miss-manners?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:012deb4e-e4be-45bb-b79e-3c4e9bbd386cPost:88bee8c1-324a-4afb-9c43-0e380fac55e2">Re: Miss Manners</a>:
[QUOTE]I find it hard to believe that there are people out there who are really like that.  I like Miss. Manner's response though.
Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE]

I just picked up the new US weekly with the girls from Teen Mom on the cover. Catelynn was asked about her wedding and said they were going to wait a while to finish school but "i want to be the only one at the wedding wearing white!" Granted, i'm taking it from who its coming from and she is only 17 or 18 but yes, those people are out there. And they are starting young!

georgia_bride09

My dad's girlfriend wore a floor-length cream dress, which is probably the dressiest dress she owns. My dress was a shade of cream. But I was the one up front getting married, so I doubt anybody was confused.

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Miss Manners : I just picked up the new US weekly with the girls from Teen Mom on the cover. Catelynn was asked about her wedding and said they were going to wait a while to finish school but "i want to be the only one at the wedding wearing white!" Granted, i'm taking it from who its coming from and she is only 17 or 18 but yes, those people are out there. And they are starting young!
Posted by jayjoe[/QUOTE]

Caitelynn is going to have bigger problems at her wedding, like her mom getting shitfaced and yelling at her, and her family showing up barefoot w/ overalls on. Have you seen how many random people walk around that house all the time? That whole situation is whack.

jayjoe

"Have you seen how many random people walk around that house all the time? That whole situation is whack."

Yup! I also saw in one of the last episodes, some random woman sitting in the living room smoking a cigarette while that little boy was standing right front of her. Nice.

georgia_bride09

Her mom smokes right in front of the little boy too. Trashtastic, that crowd.

tldh

Please please please post this on the moms and maids page.  There isn't a week that goes by that someone is whining that the MOB or MOG dress is champagne, ivory, etc. just too close to being white.

clearheavens

Vietnamese brides have this tradition of changing into a dancing dress, which can be a colorful dress they get off the rack from Nordstrom, Macy's, etc.

So this one wedding I went to, the bride's dancing dress was the exact same one as one of the guests.  What were the chances?!  I really felt bad for her!  The good side is that brides only wear the dancing dress at the very end of the night.  So they weren't twins for too long.