Hand deliver invites?!

volleygurl0306 · February 2012

My brother is getting married the weekend I was planning on sending out my invitations. If I do it privately, is it rude to hand my invitations to our mutual guests? Postal costs savings are minimal but I just figured it was a way to guarantee they receive it (and save a few pennies I guess) AND they would get it quicker since all of our mutual guests who will be there will have to travel to go to my wedding.

Habs2Hart · February 2012

I don't think it would be appropriate to hand out your wedding invitations at your brother's wedding.

annakb8 · February 2012

Just mail them. If someone gave me an invitation while I was out of town at a wedding I'd probably misplace it. If they mail it to my house I wont.

OBX2011 · February 2012

I would defiitely mail them to your guests. Don't use your brothers wedding as a chance to hand out invitations and save on postage....it could come across as tacky.

Mail those suckers out and let your wedding be the new highlight

achiduck · February 2012

I agree with PPs, I would just mail them. I'd find it inappropriate to be handed a wedding invite while attending someone else's wedding. Plus with all the mingling, etc it's entirely possible that invites could be misplaced or forgotten.

gsg717 · February 2012

Mail them. Your brother is having his day, you are having yours, the two should remain separate. Plus, the guests may lose the invitations, esp if they wont fit into a small purse. More hassle than its worth IMO.

StephBeanWed61502 · February 2012

I feel like this is kind of AWish - "Hey, I know we're at my brother's wedding, but look at me! I'm getting married too!" Plus, ditto PPs on the fact that the invitations are way more likely to get lost if you start handing them out - I would almost definitely lose something handed to me in this situation.

stefaniewattie · February 2012

I would find it really inappropriate if I received a wedding invitation at a different wedding..kind of an attention grab if you ask me. Let them have their day.
Plus, I would worry about probably losing it if I was staying at a hotel, or even forgetting it AT the other wedding.
Just mail them, its not worth looking bad to your guests, and most people love receiving things in the mail

myname1234 · February 2012

mail them please. The cost of stamps is little compared to probably pi$$ing off your brother.

likeadeadstar · February 2012

I would totally lose that invite or it would get smooshed in my purse. Mail 'em.

mbody · February 2012

Mail Them. It would be weird to receieve an invite to another wedding at a wedding. Where would guests even put it? I'd have to put it on the table and hope that I don't forget it there.

Hilraythebride · February 2012

I suggest you mail them. As PPs mentioned, you don't want people to think you are trying to steal the spotlight. Also they could get misplaced.

I handed out a few STDs at a christmas party but that was just to the family and a few friends. I think it would be awkward trying to hand them out while not everyone gets them.