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Not sure what to do about returned invites

I mailed out my invites a week ago and already got some replys back. One was from a family where we had sent both of the daughters their own invites, since they are over 18. We also invited the one girls boyfriend. (Maybe FI. They're my FI's friends so I don't know.) When we got the reply, the parents just sent back one reply card with all of their names on it. (Minus the boyfriend.) I figured they just found it easier and shrugged it off. Then yesterday, I  got a few invites returned because the addresses were messed up. Two of them were the daughters' invites. (Excell doesn't like to copy numbers and it made them sequential and I didn't notice when I was coping them.) 

Should I send back the girls' invites? They've already rsvped, (and I totally side-eye them since now I know that they didn't know we had planned to invite the girls.) I don't want them to feel too badly about adding people and feeling like we sent the other invites because of that. Should I add a note saying something like "oopps, wrote the address wrong, sorry these are late."? 

However, I am out of invites and my grandparents just added another couple. I've already had to print up a few extra invites on my printer, but this man is the president of the bank that my grandfather is a trustee or something of. My grandfater is also their lawyer. So I would feel a little weird sending them one without the raised type and inner envelope. 


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Re: Not sure what to do about returned invites

  • yikes. I have no idea what I would do in this situation, maybe a phone call explaining that the bf/fi is welcome to attend as well?
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  • I told my FMIL that they didn't RSVP for him and if she could ask if he's coming. But that was before I knew that they didn't know he was invited at all.
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  • Yeah I would pick up the phone--unless you can cleanly fix the address, I wouldn't resend. Just explain that they were returned to you and you're so happy they are able to make it. If daughter1 wants to bring her bf, he is more than welcome, let you know by X date. 
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  • I agree with the previous posters...just call and explain what happened and ask if the boyfriend is coming. Don't bring up the fact that they RSVP'd without knowing whether or not the girls were invited, if they're your fiance's close friends, it had probably been mentioned before. 

    I don't understand the bit about your grandfather - are you asking a question or just thinking aloud? (That sounds rude but I don't mean it that way! I'm just confused.)

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  • Agree with PP on the boyfriend situation - just have him call and ask if boyfriend wants to attend. I wouldn't even mention the returned invites/adding people to the RSVP.

    As for your grandfather's friend - he will never know that his invite was supposed to have raised type/inner envelope. You could always use the returned invite intended for the daughters & put it in a new envelope. I'd rather do that than re-print.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-sure-returned-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:01553ebb-a4f8-4587-b4db-6f8f77906393Post:f477de50-edc4-468c-bfda-6246e5eadad8">Re: Not sure what to do about returned invites</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't understand the bit about your grandfather - are you asking a question or just thinking aloud? (That sounds rude but I don't mean it that way! I'm just confused.)
    Posted by seltonandashlee[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Well, I guess I forgot to add the bit about should I use one of the returned invites for him. There was a guestion, I just forgot to type it. oopps!

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-sure-returned-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:01553ebb-a4f8-4587-b4db-6f8f77906393Post:17b84b98-a645-4f89-8269-037271a79d15">Re: Not sure what to do about returned invites</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah I would pick up the phone--unless you can cleanly fix the address, I wouldn't resend. Just explain that they were returned to you and you're so happy they are able to make it. If daughter1 wants to bring her bf, he is more than welcome, let you know by X date. 
    Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]


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