Poll(ish): What was your response card wording?

shannonalise

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abbalish

We listed the dinner options on different lines, and asked thg guests to initial their choices.  However, if you're offering a veggie option, just put that out there and let people decide if they want beef or veggie.  Even if someone eats meat, they might still decide they want the veggie option, which I don't think should be a problem for you.

We also just had blank lines for them to list the names of whoever was coming.

We also used postcards rather than formal response cards, though, so I'm not sure how they held up etiquette-wise.  There are some pictures in my planning bio.  I am not sure if you can see the text on them, though.

abbalish

Okay, this is what they said.

We hope you can celebrate with us!
Please reply by May 2nd.

Name(s) ____________________________ (with 3 lines)

___ Yes, I/we will attend.
___ No, I/we will not attend.

Please initial your meal selections:
___ Chicken
___ Salmon
___ Vegetarian
___ Children's meal

brookelynpaisley

1. Ours was super simple. I think it said "The favor of your reply is requested by (date) Accept ____  Decline ____" We used the M for the name, but I also numbered the backs lightly in pencil so I'd know who it belonged to, just in case. We didn't do entree selections, but it would have just listed them with blanks for check marks or numbers.

2. You may want to consider a chicken option. There are people who don't necessarily want beef, but want something more substantial than a vegetarian plate.

Anywho, under your accept, decline lines, just put "please indicate entree choice with your initials" so you know who chose what and then Beef___ and Vegetarian___.

3. Then don't use it, it's not mandatory. You could fill in the name for them if you like - I think MWhitson did something along those lines. This could help people from adding extras, also, if you put "Mary and John Smith" for couples or just "Jane Johnson" for singles

4. See number 2

5. You could put "__ seats have been reserved for your party" and fill in the number.

Of course, the other option is to be sure to address your invite clearly and if people send cards back with more than what you invited, call and give the standard "we're very sorry, but we're limited on space/budget/whatever and are unable to accomodate your children/date, we hope to see you at the wedding."

katiewhompus

We didn't do meal options so I just put
blah blah request your presence blah blah

Jane Doe

__accepts   __ regrets

John Doe

__accepts  __ regrets


I received a wedding invite that was long the lines of:

Jane Doe
__ accepts  __ regrets

Meal option
__beef
__chicken
__salmon
__vegetarian

My bf at the time and I received separate rsvp cards.

AmoroAgain

Our wording was

M______________________________

______accepts with pleasure

______accepts with regret


______declines with pleasure

______declines with regret






People didn't get it.

thesuninherhead

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_pollish-response-card-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0165ee78-d612-4020-88f5-30c435ebff73Post:bed13c57-c89d-4ed0-85f9-5a9655cee2d7">Poll(ish): What was your response card wording?</a>:
<p>[QUOTE]We are having trouble finding wording we like... 1. What was your response card wording? <font color="#ff0000">I have a feeling it said, 'Kindly respond by whateverdate'... if that's what you mean! haha. </font></p><p><font color="#ff0000">
</font></p><p>2. How can we do this without making it too cumbersome? <font color="#ff0000">We had a similar thing- what I decided to do was just ask guests to list dietary requirements. Anyone who prefered vegetarian indicated so here (as well as a couple of gluten free and other allergies). </font></p><p><font color="#ff0000">
</font></p><p>3. For some reason, I don't like the "M_______________" option - the first time I saw it, I was really confused by it. Is it pretty standard? <font color="#ff0000">I have no clue what the f you're talking about here, sorry!</font></p><p><font color="#ff0000">
</font></p><p>4. What do we do about couples? Do they get two response cards? How do we allow couples to indicate both of their choices? <font color="#ff0000">We only provided one response card per couples, but there was space for them to write dietary requirements for both people. People aren't silly and will figure out to write both requirements in a way that makes it clear whose is whose, even if you don't prompt. </font></p><p><font color="#ff0000">
</font></p><p>5. Some are coming alone and some are coming with a spouse, so do we need to make different reply cards? (i.e., "__/2" and "__/1") <font color="#ff0000">Honestly, we just listed both names for the couple (eg. Mel and Nick'), or the name of the single, and then had 'accepts' and 'declines' tick box type things. Just one for both of them, if it was a couple. We only had one person who couldn't attend with her partner, and they simply crossed off the partner's name and sent it back (not to mention, spoke to us about it) so it was clear who was comi</font><font color="#ff0000">ng.</font><font color="#ff0000">
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</font></p><p><font color="#ff0000">Don't overcomplicate it for yourself. You want something which isn't a twenty page questionnaire for your guests- something simple that makes it clear who is invited, and gives them space to let you know if they will be attending and any special food needs.</font></p><p>[/QUOTE]</p>

omgitsrojo

We will be using:

Say "we do" and respond by (DATE)

M____________________________

____ We'll help make your day complete!
____ We're unable, but hope your day is sweet!

*I think the M______ line is pretty standard, but if you don't like it, then don't use! My mom keeps telling me to just do what I like... not what people necessarily expect.

*since we're not offering options, it's not an issue, but looking at the other suggestions, I like the idea of initialling by the choice. seems easiest

squirrly

Ours are under the Templates section in my bio - the template and the screenshot.  I would definitely let your guests know that they're chosing between beef and vegetarian.  I have a lot of friends that don't eat beef but do eat chicken, and would chose veg over beef 100% of the time, but if they don't know the alternative, might be upset at being served beef.

I didn't like the M line either and I don't want to deal with not being able to read people's handwriting, so I'm custom printing each card with the guest's names on it.