Thanks for everyone's thoughts

strlzfan11

I'm not going to waster my time and echo what everyone else has already said in regards to your lying, but I do have one bit of advice to offer.

If you do go ahead and plan your pretty princess day after you've come clean (if you choose to do so and I really think you should) don't expect your parents to cough up the dough for it.

If you want to celebrate with your local friends & family that much, why don't you just rent a pavilion somewhere and throw a big picnic? Call it an AHR and be done with it.  It's a hell of a lot less money and a lot less stressful.

smokeybailey

But she IS lying and she said so in her original post.  She said that she calls her husband her fiance.  OBVIOUSLY that is a lie.  It's not a secret.  It's a lie.

Now if she just called him her friend then this would just be a Biz Markie song.

arbolita

I also think she is incredibly naive if she thinks that the only people who know are the specific friends/family she's told.  Trust me, a lot more of your guests will know by next year whether you think they do or not.

skippylouwho

There are lies of omission and lies of commission (sins are this way too). Yours is a lie of omission.  You can dress it up any way you like it, it's still a lie.

banana468

If while married I had an abortion and didn't tell DH it would be a secret.

It would also be a HUGE lie to him.

Yes, this is a secret but it's a lie.

I'm flabbergasted that you don't see that the OP is lying.