proper etiquette

VJones1981

I saw this story earlier and was wondering what the proper etiquette would be in this situation... EXCLUSIVE: 10K in Wedding Gifts Stolen From Pa. Couple http://m.nbcphiladelphia.com/nbcphilly/article/KLS6jPhN .....Should you call your guests? I would feel terrible asking each guest what they gave, if anything, but the info was needed to file a police report.

Meegles4

I had trouble with the link, but I don't know if I'd call my guests. I might just estimate what I thought people gave based on what I know we and other friends/family have given at other weddings and provide an estimated total in the police report.

If I had to have an EXACT total, then yes, I'd probably call and explain what happened and why I'm asking and just say "did you bring a gift, if so do you recall the monetary value so we can file the proper police/insurance/whatever paperwork?"

achiduck

I would feel horribly awkward calling so I'd probably enlist our parents to do most of the calling. 

Avion22

I would consult my registry first....any gifts that had been purchased and not received we're probably the ones that were stolen. Obviously this ins't a 100% solution, but it would get you pretty close.

DramaGeek

OMG.  I can't even imagine.  I think you would have to call people if the police need to know for the report, but wording it would be tough.  I'd probably go with "Unfortunately our wedding gifts were stolen and the police need an accurate record of what was there.  Since we hadn't opened anything yet, we don't know what was taken.  Can you help us with that list?" or something.  I don't know, that's really rotten.

Kristin789

Well, you're on the etiquette board, and the traditional etiquette is to deliver the gifts to the bride's house or the bride's parents' house two weeks before the wedding.  Then the gifts are displayed in the living room and the dining room of the house - see "Father of the Bride" remake with Steve Martin.  This traditional etiquette is still alive and well in the south, and clearly this would avoid the disaster you've referenced here...