I was married for 15 years. My husband passed away. Now that I am getting married again I have been lost in how to handle my late husband's family. I did research and saw that etiquette wise it looks like you handle if you invite them on a case by case basis.
So when I told my former in-laws I was getting married I told them I wanted them to think about if they wanted to come. That I didn't want to invite them and have them feel pressured to be there but that I wanted them to be there if they wanted. The response has been overwhelmingly that they want to be there. 1. They still care about me, and 2. They want to see their grandkids dressed up for the wedding. (My daughters are going to be the flower girl and brides maids and my sons will be grooms men and ring bearer.)
So that is fine. However SIL really wants to be a bridesmaid. I only wanted my daughters as my bridesmaids and my best friend as MOH. My Fiancee is only having his best man and one groomsan. His best friend is his best man and my son is his grooman.
So I don't want SIL to be a bridesmaid but I don't want to risk offending her. So do I just bite the bullet and let her or do I offend her?