With all the recent posts about SOs beign invited/not invited, it got me thinking about a potential situation I could have with a guest. Granted, there's a lot of time before I need to really thing about addressing invitations, but it's been mulling in my head.
The past year and a half, I've been nannying for the two daughters of a newly divorced dad (I have little contact with the mom). The dad and I have gotten to be good friends, and I love his girls. FI and I have started going ice skating with the kids every couple weeks, and the girls adore him. I absolutely want the girls and their dad to be at the wedding.
Now, a few months ago he started seriously dating someone. The relationship is going well, and he's talked with me about it. BUT, as far as I know, the girls don't know that daddy has a new girlfriend. Their mom did a crappy job of introducing her boyfriend to the kids (ie, he slept over but then she'd say "oh, he's just mommy's good friend" well, kids know when they're being lied to) So the dad is waiting until he feels like the relationship is very stable and comfortable before bringing the GF home to the kids.
My question is, if this situation is the same when it is time to send out invites, am I still making an etiquette faux pas by not inviting the GF?
FYI: my current plan of action is to ask the dad beforehand what he would feel comfortable with regarding the GF. I feel this way I'll be able to stick to the etiquette of not deliberately breaking up the social unit, but still allow him to make the decision of whether or not it's appropriate for his family at the time. I'm just curious what everyone's take on this will be!