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Etiquette for Two Showers in Different Cities?

Hello ladies, I have a bridal shower question.  My Maid of Honor and most of my bridesmaids live in Columbus, and my sister (another bridesmaid) and my and fiance's family live in Cincinnati (about two hours apart).  My MOH is hosting a shower for me in Columbus that's going to be mostly friends (we're going bar-hopping afterwards so its kind of a combined bridal shower and bach. party) and my sister will be hosting a shower for me in Cinci that will be mostly family.

I'd like to invite some people to both showers (i.e. FMIL, cousins, aunts, etc.) and there's a good chance that they'll attend both.  But, especially with repeat guests, I don't want gifts!  Is there any tactful way for my MOH and sister to state this on their invitations?  Should I just invite these girls to one shower?  Thanks!

Re: Etiquette for Two Showers in Different Cities?

  • I think its ok to invite family to both if you'd like to. You don't need to say anything at all about the gifts, especially on the invites. I think most people assume if they are invited to 2 showers (esp for a family member) that only one gift is expected. Some might bring a small gift to one shower (card, wine, etc) just because. Don't worry about it.
  • You can invite people to multiple showers, but it's hard to tell them to give you a gift or not.  I'd probably try not to invite people to multiple showers other than WP, FMIL, and your immediate family because many people feel obligated to gift you a separate gift for each invitation they receive.

  • Ditto mica.

    Are you getting married in Columbus or Cincy?
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_etiquette-two-showers-different-cities?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:04965419-8173-48f4-b507-2c5dd1a5fdbaPost:a4de03fd-6832-44f6-8db9-0423741aa596">Re: Etiquette for Two Showers in Different Cities?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ditto mica. Are you getting married in Columbus or Cincy?
    Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

    <div>We're getting married in Cinci.</div>
  • Oh okay. Just curious....I am originally from Columbus.

    Congrats on your wedding! Have fun at your showers :)
  • You know when my brother got married, I was invited to 4 showers, since I was in college at the time my sister-in-law suggest that I get her a set of something and give her something at each one so I didn't feel strange showing up without a gift but yet didn't break the bank. 

    I think just mentioning to them that you are inviting them to all of these events but that you don't expect gifts from them and definatly don't expect gifts from them at each one.  these are your close friends or family so I don't think you have to wory too much about how you word it. 

    I think I will be having 3 showers and I'm going to mention to my bridesmaids and family that will be invited to all that I don't expect gifts from them. 
    "Faith Hope and Love are some good things he gave us, and the greatest is Love"
  • Personally, I don't think I would invite people to more than 1 shower, but it's not against etiquette so whatever you prefer. As far as letting them know, maybe word of mouth from your mom, etc.? 
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    110 invited 86 accepted! 20 can't make it 4 haven't responded yet
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