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Re: chit chat need our help

  • I've been trying to go over there a little bit, but I'm sorry (no offense to Heels), the posters over there just seem like idiots.  I can't take it.
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  • That board does attract the weird ones lately.
  • It would be nice if she gave a little more info.
  • I did my part.

    I've played around over there ... but I'm still not sure how I feel about it. Lurking here is way more fun.

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  • edited December 2009
    I think I'm overly sensitive to that subject. Not because of FI, but because my mom always warned me not to marry a guy who put his mother above all else. It sounds weird, but when he starts taking her side, it will make sense. If he's forming a family unit with you... well, you're his new family, you know? It's about leaving the nest.

    FYI, my mom's father was like that and his mother hated my grandmother. My grandmother also had a tendency to want to "fix" people. Three failed marriages later...

    On the other hand I have mixed feelings about people who are past the age of 21 or so and are totally alienated from their parents, baring severe abuse. There has to be a nice middle ground.
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  • None taken.  It takes every ounce of self control I have to be nice to my board sometimes. 

    We usually get some new blood in there after any drama, but they never stay long.
  • It's so hard to say.  There are two definite possibilities - he's a momma's boy and hasn't detached yet OR they just have very different family dynamics and need to learn to compromise.  Like, FI's family is awfully open about money.  I don't want them to know my salary, or how much our house sells for, etc.  They seem to feel entitled to that sort of info, although they haven't pushed me for it.  I worry that they'll put FI in an uncomfortable spot - but I know he'll respect my request for privacy on that.  Unless he forgets and answers mindlessly, but that's not something I'd get mad about. 

    I hope she posts back with details.
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  • Additionally, this might be an isolated incident. Maybe he took his mother's side over ONE issue with good reason and she's upset. I'd at least like her to tell us if it's a pattern or not.
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