Late invite

Pohlmann08

I was really limited on whom I could invite. I invited a couple and only one could come. Would it be ok to invite someone I wanted to but could not at this late date. 2 weeks before?

Jen4948

I think it's too late to invite anyone else at this point.  It does come off as B listing which is rude.

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]I was really limited on whom I could invite. I invited a couple and only one could come. Would it be ok to invite someone I wanted to but could not at this late date. 2 weeks before?
Posted by Pohlmann08[/QUOTE]

Yes, it's too late.  It's better to explain to people that you are having a small wedding then to say "Hey, you are a second round draft pick, and I'm mostly using you as a seat filler"

B-listing is rude.  Just enjoy the company of the people who can attend from your original guest list.

Blue & White

We got an invite once about 3-4 weeks before the wedding and decided not to go because we knew we were B-listed.

I'm not saying everyone would do that, but it's not worth the travel & gift if the couple doesn't even want me there.

SB1512

You can't send out invites now, it is too late.  What you could do however is offer a single guest who was not given a plus on an opportunity to bring a date.

CallaLily25

It's definitely too late IMO. The person will know that they were Blisted and would likely be insulted.

mlg78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_late-invite-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:04f0ba94-4bd9-48af-8a39-2c3d84b0516aPost:d97c22dd-77e3-4bd7-9f91-5e6af1b9c186">Re: Late invite</a>:
[QUOTE]You can't send out invites now, it is too late.  What you could do however is offer a single guest who was not given a plus on an opportunity to bring a date.
Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]
This is what I would suggest and this is what has been done for me during my single days.

RWolff

I started my new job 2 weeks before my coworker's wedding. She seriously debated inviting me because it would be a B list invite. She didn't because she thought it would be too rude. Normally, it really really would, so I totally agree with PPs.

BUT now she is a BM in my wedding and we are very close. She told me she wishes now that she had said to me "Listen, I know it's last minute, and I hope it isn't rude, but we have a couple extra seats at my wedding, and since we will be working together for a while, I would love for you to come."

If that is the situation, I personally would consider it ok. If it's a long time friend or family member, still totally rude.