So it's been a little while now and I've spoken to my sister once on the phone. She informed me that she feels no need to apologize to me for the awful things she said because she was trying to offend me, mission accomplished, she's not sorry. She's embarrassed that I'm not inviting her in-laws... That's fine... I stood my ground as all of you urged me to and now she is not speaking to me. She only texts me if she has questions and such.
So what do I do when my MOH isn't speaking to me, isn't excited at all about my wedding, wants to skip the rehearsal (because she doesn't want to leave work half an hour early... which she could she doesn't want to) and wants to leave the reception early and has been treating me like a POS (which if you remember, she actually did call me a POS)?
She hasn't paid for anything which would allow her to be a part of the wedding (my mom and I have paid for her BM dress, shoes (2 pairs) and her kids' FG and RB outfits). I had previously offered to buy her some flats to change into after the ceremony and she responded like she fully already expected me to. She isn't grateful to anything.
My mother asked her if she wanted to step down and be either a regular BM or just a guest since it seems like she is just super stressed out about this wedding (which she seriously has no reason to be!) and she apparently got really upset and offended and asked my mom if I put her up to asking that question (which, TBH, I did) but my mom said no, she was just trying to help her out.
What do I do? Just keep her in my wedding because of etiquette and because I don't want mine and FI's families thinking I'm a b-word bridezilla? She never smiles and FI and I are both worried that she is going to ruin every wedding pic with her scowl and will stand out next to all of my beautiful and wonderfully happy BMs (this isn't a determining factor, just an added annoyance).
I feel like etiquette shouldn't negate happiness, especially when I have such a strong feeling that she is going to ruin our wedding day and our wedding pics, but I also don't want to look like bridezilla and have her end up looking like a martyre.
So frustrated! If it weren't for my niece and nephew, I honestly wouldn't care less if my sis remained in my life... But I love those kids...
ETA: when I said she wants to leave the reception early, I mean like immediately after dinner and before cake cutting. I know she isn't required to stay, but really? She's my sister and my MOH and she doesn't even want to be there, but refuses to step down...