Well thanks for that, FMIL....

Zoey8508

This isn't a question, just had to share. My FBIL has been dating his current gf for about 5 months, but they're pretty serious already. Living together, even talking about getting married. Anyways, the new girlfriend & I have become pretty close, so I decided to ask her to be in the WP. I didn't ever actually ask her, I planned on doing that at my neice's birthday party this weekend.

So anyways, I told FMIL I was going to ask her, and she took it upon herself to call her (without my knowledge) and tell her "Zoey wants to know if you're still with FBIL by her wedding in may, if you'll be a BM".

Well that's not rude or anything...

Loopyseven

Oh geesh.  Hopefully GF was not offended by that.

Maggie0829

Good luck with your FMIL, she sounds peachy!

mari0225

Wow yeah...she sounds fun to deal with...good luck!

whitsy

Ugh, that would be embarassing! It's not like she'd say, "Oh well, no, we're breaking up, now that you ask."

RailWayWife

Oh she sounds just awesome

Carla1019

I have people around me like this too....I've learned to keep my mouth shut and don't tell them a damn thing!

mari0225

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_well-thanks-for-that-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:050b6372-1cf9-43ea-813d-6251228edc5fPost:c335c600-ddf7-49ad-b4bb-6632449b0d5f">Re: Well thanks for that, FMIL....</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I wouldn't be discussing my WP choices with anyone but my H...certainly not my MIL.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

Same here

beautifulvice

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_well-thanks-for-that-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:050b6372-1cf9-43ea-813d-6251228edc5fPost:029eb553-8696-4b1a-939c-55989771bb4d">Well thanks for that, FMIL....</a>:
[QUOTE]This isn't a question, just had to share. My FBIL has been dating his current gf for about 5 months, but they're pretty serious already. Living together, even talking about getting married. Anyways, the new girlfriend & I have become pretty close, so I decided to ask her to be in the WP. I didn't ever actually ask her, I planned on doing that at my neice's birthday party this weekend. So anyways, I told FMIL I was going to ask her, and she took it upon herself to call her (without my knowledge) and tell her "Zoey wants to know if you're still with FBIL by her wedding in may, if you'll be a BM". Well that's not rude or anything...
Posted by Zoey8508[/QUOTE]

Yikes...

I foresee many interesting Thanksgivings in your future.

Katelyn89

Ya that sucks. I guess you have to avoid talking about wedding related things with her. Sounds much like my FMIL.

Simply Fated

In Response to Re:Well thanks for that, FMIL....:[QUOTE]This totally sounds like something my FMIL would do! Posted by SkettiHeadie[/QUOTE]
Same!

Super awkward.

Winnertag1

That is awkward, my dad would do something like that. 

vbandell

I am going through a lot of the same things. Only I had said I was thinking of having my fiances sisters as bridesmaids but I had not made any decisions yet and she told them they were bridesmaids. So I had to then be the bad person and say no, that was never decided. And then my fiance had told her that we were wanting to have his little cousin as the ring bear and she went and told my fiances grandma (who his little cousin lives with) that his cousin was the ring  bear.

I dont know what happened but pretty sure those kind of things should be things that only I and my fiance should be announcing!

angryangry

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_well-thanks-for-that-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:050b6372-1cf9-43ea-813d-6251228edc5fPost:b65e97f7-e4a2-4a14-a3b3-78004b2d3dd2">Re: Well thanks for that, FMIL....</a>:
[QUOTE]I am going through a lot of the same things. Only I had said I was thinking of having my fiances sisters as bridesmaids but I had not made any decisions yet and she told them they were bridesmaids. So I had to then be the bad person and say no, that was never decided. And then my fiance had told her that we were wanting to have his little cousin as the ring bear and she went and told my fiances grandma (who his little cousin lives with) that his cousin was the ring  bear. I dont know what happened but pretty sure those kind of things should be things that only I and my fiance should be announcing!
Posted by vbandell[/QUOTE]

<div>FYI it is "ring bearer" not "ring bear". For some reason this is a weird pet peeve of mine. </div>

krose83013

Agh! How do you respond to that? Geez...

stefwells23

Yiles!! No a respectful thing to do... I hope your FBIL GF was't too offended by what was said.

32daisies

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[QUOTE]Ya that sucks. I guess you have to avoid talking about wedding related things with her. Sounds much like my FMIL.
Posted by Katelyn89[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

Of course that's the right thing to do, but we all know it's sometimes next to impossible when your FMIL is beating down your door for details. They can be relenteless. And sometimes your FH unwittingly lets things slip, and sometimes they're downright sleuths at finding this stuff out. Just hang in there...

Sassenach1743

I feel your pain! 

I have been dealing with a similar issue with my FMIL... they stir the pot, they can't keep their mouths shut, they do and say things that are not appropriate and then we end up being the bad guys! It's so unfair. 

BostonGIrl4732

Yikes!  Sorry you have to deal with that...

jmayinc

It wouldn't even be so bad if she told her you wanted to make her a bridesmaid...but when she takes it upon herself to add addition verbaige to the statement, THAT'S what makes it embarrassing.

ShadowCutter

My FMIL recently asked me if I'm going to have FSIL as a bridesmaid (in the way that means "*when* are you going to ask her", if I heard the tone right). I only said something like "I don't know" but really I wasn't planning to since we're not close or anything; it hadn't occurred to me. I hope she didn't say anything to FSIL about it, I have no idea if she wants to be a BM or it was all FMIL's idea. She hasn't been involved at all until now and just decided to "remind" me of this and that.

ShadowCutter

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_well-thanks-for-that-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:050b6372-1cf9-43ea-813d-6251228edc5fPost:0d6761d4-962f-4f60-92c1-5e1b25fe1dca">Re: Well thanks for that, FMIL....</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Well thanks for that, FMIL.... : FYI it is "ring bearer" not "ring bear". For some reason this is a weird pet peeve of mine. 
Posted by angryangry[/QUOTE]



Reminds me of an episode of Bobby's World, Bobby thought there would be a bear in the wedding. I didn't know people older than 5 made that mistake. :-}