Etiquette Eff Up

BecW2be

My groomsmaid's button bouquet got returned when I shipped it to her. I emailed her, and she said she was coming over in May and she'd just grab it then. I was so thankful it made it back to me and wasn't lost, so I'm glad I don't have to chance shipping it again. It's sat in my office floor for a few weeks now (wedding was in October), and I just opened it to look at how I fastened the ribbon around the stems to answer a PM, and HER FUCKING THANK YOU CARD IS IN THE BOX!

I thought I had sent it separately, but I didn't. It was in the box with the bouquet. I feel horrible! It's been six months! I gave her a gift and a thank you card the day of the wedding, but this is a thank you for the gift she sent to us. Should I send it now, or just wrap the box back up and give it all to her when she arrives in May?

I suck.

AlexiaANDRobert

I'd leave it in the box.

I'm pretty sure she doesn't think you're rude or whatever.

It makes sense that you sent it with the bouquet and it got returned.

kikibaby

Just give it all to her in May.  She'll understand.

danieliza1127

I would just call her up and explain what happened and send it to her now.  She's obviously a close friend, she'll laugh and understand.

[Deleted User]

Eh, just wait till May.  Tell her the same story you told us and I'm sure she'll understand. 

squirrly

The beginning of May or the end?  If it's the end, I'd send it separately.

BecW2be

She's coming at the end of May from Liverpool. I feel like if I send it separately now, it'll look like I'm just getting around to thank you notes. But if she hasn't received one at all, she's thinking I'm rude anyway. I may just put a little note in it explaining what happened and mail just the card.

Thanks once again Etiquette Queens!

vallyhoo

I may just put a little note in it explaining what happened and mail just the card.

That's what I'd do Bec

samurai21

I would just wait until may. If a close friend did that to me we would just laugh about it. One time at Christmas I was in a wrapping and shipping frenzy that 1 of my little cousins got a box with tape in it and no gift card and her brothers got the right gift.

We all had a good laugh.

BecW2be

Yeah, if it was my friend, I'd be ok with it, but it's DH's cousin. I almost screamed when I saw that card in the box! I had serious etiquette stress when planning because his family is a lot more formal than mine, and they had some serious expectations. All I need is for someone to be fuming over not receiving a thank you card yet!

tenofcups4me

Yeah, I'd mail it now with a separate note. Depending on the relationship, I'd be inclined to start with something lke: "Ok, so look what I found when I opened the box I tried to send to you. Yeah, I'm a dipshit -- I totally forgot it was in there! etc. etc. etc."

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Do it in May.

She will totally understand the mistake. Also, I just got a TY a few weeks ago from a wedding I attending in October. It was a really long, nicely written TY note. It just came 6 months after the fact... which lessened my annoyance at it's untimely arrival.

janedoe1113a

I would send it now with a little note explaining what happened.