Thanks

mscheer2

Thanks everyone.  I guess it gives me something to think about.  Maybe I'll hope for a breakup. ;-)

hlq2011

You can't get around it.  They are in a relationship, which means you have to invite her. 

Sorry, but there's no way to exclude her without excluding the BM.

polichik

I'm afraid that you do need to invite her, as she's the best man's girlfriend.

Does her weird statements bother her boyfriend, the best man? I'm assuming that he's also present for these get-togethers, and if he and your fiance really aren't bothered by it, I wonder if you might be misinterpreting what she's saying. If her BF is bothered by it as well, then he needs to put his foot down with her.

If what she's saying is truly disrespectful, it's kind of up to her boyfriend to have a conversation with her.

Beachy730

CN: Best Man is dating groom's ex.  Ex brings up when she dated the groom all the time.  OP doesn't want to invite the ex now, even though she is the long-term GF of the BM.

opalsky007

I'm sorry you're in this position, and I think you need to have some serious discussions with your fiance about setting boundaries. It's not appropriate for her to say these things to you, and perhaps since he is the other person in the stories, he needs to be the one to talk about her.

That said, you can NOT exclude her from the wedding. She's been with the best man for longer than you've been with your husband. It would be extremely rude to separate them in a social situation like this one. 

Fifty people is still a lot of people. There were 45 people at my wedding, including the minister and his wife and the photographer. I still didn't spend a considerable amount of time with most of the people there. There was just too much going on. Ignore her, she can continue to tell dumb stories or say classless things about you to whoever she wants, and she looks like the fool. Not you.

Beachy730

You need to invite her.  She is the SO of your FI's best friend and BM.  You can't split up a social unit.  You can however stop hanging around them.  Stop doing things as couples, and just let your FI hang out with his friend.  

However, i'm a bitch, so at the wedding I would probably say something like "so how does my wedding compare to the one you and FI had?  Oh wait...  that's right."

redheadfsu

You have to invite her. They only way you don't have to is if they break-up before the wedding. Sorry.

georgia_bride09

Sometimes I just can't believe all the effort people putting into writing these short stories. Bravo, OP. Bravo.

jilld82

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dreaded-ex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:05db4abb-39a4-4cb0-9c39-67a68a7f1827Post:9963209f-571e-44e7-821f-fb91e6df30dc">Re: The Dreaded Ex!</a>:
[QUOTE]You need to invite her.  She is the SO of your FI's best friend and BM.  You can't split up a social unit.  You can however stop hanging around them.  Stop doing things as couples, and just let your FI hang out with his friend.   However, i'm a bitch, so at the wedding I would probably say something like "so how does my wedding compare to the one you and FI had?  Oh wait...  that's right."
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

:)  Like.

cengle

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dreaded-ex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:05db4abb-39a4-4cb0-9c39-67a68a7f1827Post:9963209f-571e-44e7-821f-fb91e6df30dc">Re: The Dreaded Ex!</a>:
[QUOTE]You need to invite her.  She is the SO of your FI's best friend and BM.  You can't split up a social unit.  You can however stop hanging around them.  Stop doing things as couples, and just let your FI hang out with his friend.   However, i'm a bitch, so <strong>at the wedding I would probably say something like "so how does my wedding compare to the one you and FI had?  Oh wait...  that's right."</strong>
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]


Heh. Thumbs up.

AbbeyS2011

<strong>In</strong> Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dreaded-ex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:05db4abb-39a4-4cb0-9c39-67a68a7f1827Post:9963209f-571e-44e7-821f-fb91e6df30dc">Re: The Dreaded Ex!</a>:
[QUOTE]You need to invite her.  She is the SO of your FI's best friend and BM.  You can't split up a social unit.  You can however stop hanging around them.  Stop doing things as couples, and just let your FI hang out with his friend.   <strong>However, i'm a bitch, so at the wedding I would probably say something like "so how does my wedding compare to the one you and FI had?  Oh wait...  that's right."
</strong>Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

*Giggle*

I like you. 

mica178

Dnb makes me laugh.

Sorry, OP, about the situation.  Invite her.  If she brings up her relationship with your FI, use Dnb's advice.  Hopefully, it won't come to that.