Inviting out of towners

CarlyS1024

My fiance and I live in KY and will be getting married in MI where we are both from. For those people who live in KY that we would invite if the wedding were local, but who most likely will not attend since it is hours away, should we still invite them?

LittleMissCutiePie

You definitely should if you would were the wedding in KY, but keep in mind that while some will decline, you should budget for EVERYONE you invite. Even if you know Great Uncle Earl can't travel, and you invite him, save a spot for him in your budget and guest list until the RSVP comes back saying "Regrets to Decline".

em01092

It's really up to you and who is paying. If your parents or FI's parents are contributing, they will probably want a say in the guest list. What is the max you can afford/your venue can hold?

Also who are these KY guests you are considering? Do you have any family in KY? For example, if you plan on inviting Uncle Joe from MI, then I think you should also invite Aunt Sally from KY, KWIM? Keep it consistant and have clear cut offs (all aunts/uncles but no cousins, all 1st cousins but not 2nd or 3rd, etc). 

Now if it's only friends in KY, then that's different. Like PPs said, you must plan on them coming until you hear otherwise. Your assumption is valid, but could be wrong. 

Grits8812

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-out-of-towners?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0688c63d-40a0-4438-b262-17b8c99063c9Post:ab3306ba-a6f4-41f6-94ff-79b64115126b">Re: Inviting out of towners</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd invite whomever you would like to be there. They can decline if they can't make the trip.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]
This.  If you would like them to be at your wedding they need an invite and a save the date so they know to plan a trip if they can make it.

Ash61612

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-out-of-towners?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0688c63d-40a0-4438-b262-17b8c99063c9Post:ab3306ba-a6f4-41f6-94ff-79b64115126b">Re: Inviting out of towners</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd invite whomever you would like to be there. They can decline if they can't make the trip.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

agree. You never know who may make a mini vacation out of the trip since the wedding is in a new location to them.

IDO2k12

Invite whomeever you wish according to your budget and venue choices! If they feel that they cannot make the trip to your wedding they can properly respond RSVP accordingly after they get their invite.