I don't like to assume... but

Blodwyn727

If someone comes to the bridal shower, is it safe to assume she will come to the wedding? She told me she received the invitation, and she attended the bridal shower, but has not sent her response card. I've even asked her, via text, but still no answer. I know I need to call her, but I need to turn in my final headcount tomorrow. If she doesn't return my call by tomorrow, can I assume she will attend the wedding?

s-aries8990

She may not necessarily come because of other obligations, but call her now, like this minute, and if you get no response, it's better to have a few extra seats than not enough.

amymaysa

You can never assume some is attending your wedding b/c they attended your shower.
They are 2 separate events. Continue trying to get in touch with her to get a response.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]If someone comes to the bridal shower, is it safe to assume she will come to the wedding? She told me she received the invitation, and she attended the bridal shower, but has not sent her response card. I've even asked her, via text, but still no answer. I know I need to call her, but I need to turn in my final headcount tomorrow. If she doesn't return my call by tomorrow, can I assume she will attend the wedding?
Posted by Blodwyn727[/QUOTE]

She may be waiting to confirm something else going on at the same time. If you final headcount is due tomorrow, call her, dont text her.

OliveOilsMom

I had many cousins attend the shower, but then not attend the wedding.  As PP said, call her right now and tell her you need to turn your final head count in tomorrow and if you don't hear from her by noon tomorrow, you will assume she is not attending the wedding.

Cortney1982

It seems to me she might have something else come up that day.  I would call her, not text and say you need your answer by the end of the day.  If she doesn't say anything that would be enough for me to take it as a NO.  You shouldn't have to pay for an extra head that might or might not show up.

RailWayWife

No, she many not be able to make it to the wedding or have other plans

cwaggoner07

You definitely cannot assume that. You never know what her conflicts may be.

LeiselEB

I wouldn't assume she'd attend the wedding based on shower attendance, but definitely call and let her know you need an answer by X. If by that time she hasn't answered, I'd count her as a no.