Inviting the pre-marital counselor?

MrsCoffee

I couldn't find a previous post on this subject, so I thought I would ask. If a couple have been going to pre-marital counseling, would it be typical to invite their counselor to their wedding (assuming that the counselor is not the same person marrying them)? If so, should the invite be addressed to their office, their home (if known), or hand delivered? Thanks!

beardownbchs

I'm inviting my therapist but we're super close and I consider her a friend. We've gone out for drinks and she invited me to her housewarming party. I doubt there is anything telling you to invite him or her, but probably nothing telling you not to also. 

Would you invite him/her if he/she wasn't your counselor? Would you be friends with him/her outside of counseling? If not, I wouldn't. He/she would not be upset or offended if he wasn't invited and would probably be very flattered if he was, but may think it's kind of odd if you don't feel like you have a personal relationship. 

Jen4948

This is just me, but it seems to me that it crosses the line of professionalism for a counselor to attend a client's wedding the same way it does for a teacher to do that with a student.  They  may even have rules against it.  So I personally wouldn't invite them.  But as I mentioned, that's just me.  I don't know what anyone else's experience is.

cwaggoner07

I think it just depends on your relationship. But no, you are not required to invite them.

Benny618

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[QUOTE]This is just me, but it seems to me that it crosses the line of professionalism for a counselor to attend a client's wedding the same way it does for a teacher to do that with a student.  They  may even have rules against it.  So I personally wouldn't invite them.  But as I mentioned, that's just me.  I don't know what anyone else's experience is.
Posted by Jen4948[/QUOTE]

agreed... seems totally inappropriate to have drinks with your therapist but maybe that is just me...

loca4pook

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[QUOTE]I'm inviting my therapist but we're super close and I consider her a friend. We've gone out for drinks and she invited me to her housewarming party. I doubt there is anything telling you to invite him or her, but probably nothing telling you not to also.  Would you invite him/her if he/she wasn't your counselor? Would you be friends with him/her outside of counseling? If not, I wouldn't. He/she would not be upset or offended if he wasn't invited and would probably be very flattered if he was, but may think it's kind of odd if you don't feel like you have a personal relationship. 
Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]

If your therapist is having drinks with you and going to housewarming parties, you need to find a new therapist. She is breaking every ethic out there. I am dead serious on this one. Licensed therapists would lose their license over what you just wrote.....


Just for the record, our you talking about like a little married church couple who "counsels" (mentors) people for like pre-cana? or you talkiing about a serious licensed therapist working on married issues with you? I see a big difference...


I think the little married couple from a church who mentors you would be fine to invite but not necessary

I think inviting a licensed therapist/psychologist would NOT be okay to invite...nor would they likely attend. Boundaries would be crossed by inviting them and MORE boundaries on THEIR end, if they would be to attend