Eloping with reception when we get back

jenniferfarwell

My Fiance and I are looking to elope in Bali or Thailand and get married on the beach. We are wanting to get it video taped and of course there will be pictures. We want to have a big party (reception) when we get back where we will have some of the video playing and maybe a picture slide show, we havent' figured out the details.

Even though I am eloping I want to send out traditional invitaions for the reception back home. Most sites let you create what ever wording you want, but I am not sure how to say "We got married come celebrate with us", or "We are going to get married join us to celebrate". I am having a hard time figuring out what to say on the invites. Any suggestions?

apratte3

We're using the wording "Join us in celebrating our marriage" followed by event information.

We're doing the same thing - eloping privately, then having a casual reception at home with our familiy and friends. And regardless of what old school etiquette rules dictate, do what you want. There are no laws about how your wedding should be or what it should be. Etiquette is based on tradition, most traditions are based on religion and ethical backgrounds, etc. etc. Sure - some people might question that you are choosing to do it this way - but if they dont accept it after an explanation - that is on them, not on you. If they really love and care about your happiness, they will understand.

While traditions and etiquette might exist - there are no laws or rules here. If those traditions and values are important to you - then you should follow them! If not, why should you? I found the following quote on a website about wedding etiquette:
"As weddings and their corresponding traditions have changed, so has the etiquette surrounding them. Things that were once inconceivable faux pas are now common conventions. The standards of proper etiquette are continually evolving and changing with the times, and modern brides (as well as modern guests) will be relieved that some old-fashioned manners musts can often be gracefully let go."

link to the website I quoted...and check out #5
http://www.divinecaroline.com/22072/100574-old-five-outdated-wedding-rules/2