Vegan wedding! Yikes!

SJM7538

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Belle0720

I think a late evening or late afternoon(2:30?) ceremony and dessert reception is the best option. Maybe you could include a line asking for dietary restrictions on your RSVP card or if you have a website request it there? And I think including some savory apps and fresh fruit is a good idea too instead of just vegan baked goods.

s-aries8990

OP, if you can tolerate it, try adding in some vegetarian foods/desserts (like with cheese, eggs and butter) that will be more filling/familiar for your guests, if not, as Stage said, make note of any weird substitute or put a sign indicating that they should ask *person in charge with a list of ingredients* if they have any allergies.

If you really can only go vegan-only, that is fine, but please find as many options as possible for your guests so they can eat to fufill their dietary needs (a diabetic won't necessarily do well if there are only sweets at your reception!)

Maybe, also have a sign about what vegan-ism is, explaining it, next to your stationary appetizers so guests will "get it" and won't just think it's super weird food just for the sake of it.

Good luck!

antibride2013

Just a question-if all that is being offered is a dessert reception due to morals, I hope you didn't register for anything over $10.00.  I have had to read up on wedding items, and it is customary to give a gift that equals the meal that is served.  I have morals about food as well, but this wedding is not for me, it is for the guests, and they should be respected and thanked adequately for sharing the day with you.

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes!: I don't think explaining veganism is at all necessary.
Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]

No, but what I originally got from OP is that they didn't undertsand it. Reading fail on my part- they get it they're just stubborn about it.

CrazyCatLady3

Regarding "cutting out major food groups" due to not having meat and dairy, just fyi, food groups went out in the 1980’s.  The newest nutrition guides don’t even include meat and dairy. http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/pyramid/  

(meat is an optional protein to be limited – healthy plant-based proteins are encouraged).  

renegade gaucho

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[QUOTE]Just a question-if all that is being offered is a dessert reception due to morals, I hope you didn't register for anything over $10.00.  I have had to read up on wedding items, and it is customary to give a gift that equals the meal that is served.  I have morals about food as well, but this wedding is not for me, it is for the guests, and they should be respected and thanked adequately for sharing the day with you.
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

If I did a shot for everything that is wrong with this post, I wouldn't be able to drive home right now.

CrazyCatLady3

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[QUOTE]Just a question-if all that is being offered is a dessert reception due to morals, I hope you didn't register for anything over $10.00.  I have had to read up on wedding items, and it is customary to give a gift that equals the meal that is served.  I have morals about food as well, but this wedding is not for me, it is for the guests, and they should be respected and thanked adequately for sharing the day with you.
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

<div>The type of wedding you host is not quid pro quo for the type of gifts you receive.  Gifts are never required, but if they are given they are not in exchange for how expensive the wedding reception is.</div>

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]Just a question-if all that is being offered is a dessert reception due to morals, I hope you didn't register for anything over $10.00.  I have had to read up on wedding items, and it is customary to give a gift that equals the meal that is served.  I have morals about food as well, but this wedding is not for me, it is for the guests, and <strong>they should be respected and thanked adequately for sharing the day with you.</strong>
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

I think that as long as OP provides an appropriate mix of enough savory and sweet foods and an appropriate beverage selection,  she will be adequately thanking them. She isn't disrespecting them...

TKzilla

I wouldn't serve food at our wedding that my FI and I weren't able/willing to eat. You cannot please everyone, but you're the one forking out the money for this (assuming, any way) so you should be able to enjoy everything at your reception.

You don't have to have a big fat VEGAN sign stamped on your forehead - just carefully choose vegan options OR go on with the vegan dessert reception. Just make sure the guests know there won't be a full meal.

I recommend having a list of possible allergens for every wedding reception. Just put it in the menu or the card in front of the buffet "may contain _______". It's a small courtesy.

I think veganism and vegetarianism is just as big a part of someone's life as their religion. Then again, I'm a meat eater and agnostic...

itzMS

Just wanted to say that a dessert reception would be fine if it's adequately communicated as such.

Sorry to everyone who is very pro-vegan for any misunderstandings.

I've always enjoyed how this board encourages brides to be considerate of and accomodating to ALL guests, so it is surprising that when the bride has vegan beliefs that those party lines go out the window.

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]Just wanted to say that a dessert reception would be fine if it's adequately communicated as such. Sorry to everyone who is very pro-vegan for any misunderstandings. I've always enjoyed how this board encourages brides to be considerate of and accomodating to ALL guests, so it is surprising that when the bride has vegan beliefs that those party lines go out the window.
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

Well, it's accomodating to nearly ALL guests becuase she most likely won't be going against any religious or lifestyle beliefs of her guests with her currently planned menu. Sure she may be serving some things that aren't everyone's total fav, but they won't feel like a moral outcast or as if they were going to *insert hell-like afterlife* because they ate some vegan food. I think a PP stated something about dietary restrictions on the RSVP card and this is where OP can address the restrictions of those individual guests so she will be able to properly accomodate ALL guests.

CrazyCatLady3

To the OP, I heard that Isa Chandra Moskowitz, the famous vegan cookbook author, moved to Omaha.  Maybe she can cater your wedding.

Here's her website:

http://www.theppk.com/contact/

renegade gaucho

All the people turning up their noses at a vegan reception are ridiculous.  There are lots of very common foods that non-vegans eat all the time that happen to be vegan.  I eat a lot of vegan stuff due to medical reasons, and never once has my diet included tofu.  In fact, being forced to change my eating habits has opened my eyes to a whole new, wonderful world of foods that I used to dismiss as weird, and I enjoy cooking and eating so much more now.  This refusal to consider anything beyond meat for ONE MEAL is childish.

AddieCake

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[QUOTE]Just a question-if all that is being offered is a dessert reception due to morals, I hope you didn't register for anything over $10.00.  I have had to read up on wedding items, and <strong>it is customary to give a gift that equals the meal that is served. </strong> I have morals about food as well, but this wedding is not for me, it is for the guests, and they should be respected and thanked adequately for sharing the day with you.
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

<div>Ummm, no. That's a load of BS. </div>

aurianna

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[QUOTE]Thanks again, everyone who replied...even the people who think my hosting a vegan wedding is a terribly idea. I know at least some of my guests may feel that way, so I think it's a valid perspective to hear. <strong>I'm very glad, though, to see that there are a lot of people who understand it's a moral decision, and I hope most of my guests will see that, too</strong>. Hopefully they'll be having so much fun and enjoying the snacks and desserts so much they won't care!
Posted by pumpkin314159[/QUOTE]

I think you're totally 100% ok to have a light apps / dessert reception.
And it's not like everything is going to be tofu; you'll have lots of "familiar" options to your guests, it sounds like.
But what I'd avoid is stressing how vegan it is to your guests.

If went to a reception and there were chips and salsa and crackers and hummus and fruit and veggies and sorbet and nuts, I'd be a happy camper. If there were a vegan cake and someone told me after the fact that the bride was vegan I'd probably think, "neat, I'll try it." And then I'd say "thanks for the great dessert reception!"
But if beforehand and/or during I heard it was stressed that it was vegan and that's why there was no dinner... and how it's so important to the bride's morals that no one eats animal products at her wedding... I guess I'd feel just a little put-off? It's totally irrational, but maybe I'd feel like certain food was being denied to me because of a morale alignment I didn't necessarily agree with (despite most likely having liked the menu prior to having that knowledge!). You don't want your hosts saying to you "We don't agree in your lifestyle choices, so we're going to force ours upon you tonight." (and I know that's not what you're doing, but people can react to things differently than you'd expect).

So I say totally throw the dessert reception like you've described, but aside from the allergen warnings and such, maybe don't stress how "vegan" it is?
If done correctly, a lot of your guests won't even need to "accept your morale decision," because they might not even notice it's a full-vegan wedding... it might be more of a "Did you try that beandip? It's really yummy." "I did! And did you know that cake didn't have eggs in it? How neat is that?"

I have no idea if what I'm saying makes any sense. Of course be proud of who you are. And of course a lot of people would think it's great for standing up what you believe in.. but you also don't want any of your guests feeling like they'd be judged for how they'd eat or that you think them ammoral for liking cheese. (and again, not to say you would; just that's what can happen if people feel like they're attending a political statement instead of a wedding reception).

I have no idea if that made sense.

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes! : I think you're totally 100% ok to have a light apps / dessert reception. And it's not like everything is going to be tofu; you'll have lots of "familiar" options to your guests, it sounds like. But what I'd avoid is stressing how vegan it is to your guests. If went to a reception and there were chips and salsa and crackers and hummus and fruit and veggies and sorbet and nuts, I'd be a happy camper. If there were a vegan cake and someone told me after the fact that the bride was vegan I'd probably think, "neat, I'll try it." And then I'd say "thanks for the great dessert reception!" But if beforehand and/or during I heard it was stressed that it was vegan and that's why there was no dinner... and how it's so important to the bride's morals that no one eats animal products at her wedding... I guess I'd feel just a little put-off? It's totally irrational, but maybe I'd feel like certain food was being denied to me because of a morale alignment I didn't necessarily agree with (despite most likely having liked the menu prior to having that knowledge!). You don't want your hosts saying to you "We don't agree in your lifestyle choices, so we're going to force ours upon you tonight." (and I know that's not what you're doing, but people can react to things differently than you'd expect). So I say totally throw the dessert reception like you've described, but aside from the allergen warnings and such, maybe don't stress how "vegan" it is? If done correctly, a lot of your guests won't even need to "accept your morale decision," because they might not even notice it's a full-vegan wedding... it might be more of a "Did you try that beandip? It's really yummy." "I did! And did you know that cake didn't have eggs in it? How neat is that?" I have no idea if what I'm saying makes any sense. Of course be proud of who you are. And of course a lot of people would think it's great for standing up what you believe in.. but you also don't want any of your guests feeling like they'd be judged for how they'd eat or that you think them ammoral for liking cheese. (and again, not to say you would; just that's what can happen if people feel like they're attending a political statement instead of a wedding reception). I have no idea if that made sense.
Posted by aurianna[/QUOTE]

Made sense to me, and I agree.  OP, I think if you serve a good variety of sweet and savory at an appropriate time of day, you're good to go. 

itzMS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes!: your being obtuse. I wouldn't expect my vegan friends to foot the bill for meat any more than I would expect my conservative nopremarital / extramarital sex friends to host an orgy. We're talking about MORALS here, what are you not getting about that?
Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]

And I think you're being a bit dramatic.

Imposing (backhandedly or not) beliefs, morals, or lifestyles upon others is never appropriate IMHO.

As a vast majority of people don't participate in veganism, so it may be perceived as rude to a good portion of guests. The OP indicates her and FI's families are not on board.

We'll agree to disagree. 

hoffse

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes! : I think you're totally 100% ok to have a light apps / dessert reception. And it's not like everything is going to be tofu; you'll have lots of "familiar" options to your guests, it sounds like. But what I'd avoid is stressing how vegan it is to your guests. If went to a reception and there were chips and salsa and crackers and hummus and fruit and veggies and sorbet and nuts, I'd be a happy camper. If there were a vegan cake and someone told me after the fact that the bride was vegan I'd probably think, "neat, I'll try it." And then I'd say "thanks for the great dessert reception!" But if beforehand and/or during I heard it was stressed that it was vegan and that's why there was no dinner... and how it's so important to the bride's morals that no one eats animal products at her wedding... I guess I'd feel just a little put-off? It's totally irrational, but maybe I'd feel like certain food was being denied to me because of a morale alignment I didn't necessarily agree with (despite most likely having liked the menu prior to having that knowledge!). You don't want your hosts saying to you "We don't agree in your lifestyle choices, so we're going to force ours upon you tonight." (and I know that's not what you're doing, but people can react to things differently than you'd expect). So I say totally throw the dessert reception like you've described, but aside from the allergen warnings and such, maybe don't stress how "vegan" it is? If done correctly, a lot of your guests won't even need to "accept your morale decision," because they might not even notice it's a full-vegan wedding... it might be more of a "Did you try that beandip? It's really yummy." "I did! And did you know that cake didn't have eggs in it? How neat is that?" I have no idea if what I'm saying makes any sense. Of course be proud of who you are. And of course a lot of people would think it's great for standing up what you believe in. but you also don't want any of your guests feeling like they'd be judged for how they'd eat or that you think them ammoral for liking cheese. (and again, not to say you would; just that's what can happen if people feel like they're attending a political statement instead of a wedding reception). I have no idea if that made sense.
Posted by aurianna[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>i think you explained it perfectly.  I'm not vegan or even close to vegetarian - I'm much closer to paleo than anything, and I dislike having the vegetarian/vegan conversation with those who make that lifestyle choice because I often feel as though they are either 1) trying to convert me or 2) judging me.  Eating meat =/= an affinity for animal torture.  I personally view eating meat as going natural in a sense, since humans are naturally omnivores and animal protein has been a major part of our diets for centuries (millenia?).  And see, that's why I don't like to have that conversation - I much prefer it to be a live and let live sort of thing where we don't try to talk each other into lifestyle choices we simply aren't going to follow.  It's counterproductive and can lead to unhappy feelings.</div><div>
</div><div>So I think what PP said is absolutely correct - since it is your wedding, you should feel free to serve whatever you want, but I wouldn't make it about the vegan vs. nonvegan conversation.  It's likely to alienate guests even if they would otherwise be ok with your menu choices.</div><div>
</div><div>As much as I don't want to say this, I think you shold also be prepared for a few boycotts of your reception.  Even without stressing the vegan thing to guests, it sounds like it's a sensitive issue among certain members of your and your FI's family, and they may be on the lookout for you "forcing" them to follow a belief system they disagree with for a night or (in the case of your FI's family) "converting" your "poor fiance who can't say no" into a lifestyle that they "know deep down he must not agree with."  Do you see what I'm getting at here?  I wouldn't be surprised if this is what some of them are thinking, and with a vegan reception these thoughts - however judgy - are probably going to be reinforced.  So just be ready to confront that because I think it's the nature of the beast in your case (no pun intended).

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Jager1219

Oh my my my - this post has gone A-Wall!

OP - do a dessert reception.  Include fruit/veggie crudities/savory apps like PP have suggested.  Include on the invite that it's a dessert reception so people don't show up expecting a full meal.

Some people are vegan or vegetarian for health reasons (like many people who are gluten-free).  When I'm invited to a Jewish wedding, depending on the couple, I assume that it will be kosher.  I don't question it the same way I wouldn't question this.  I also would never assume that as a non-kosher person for a host to offer me something non-kosher just because I'm not kosher.

It's like offering 3 options at a wedding for food (steak, salmon, and eggplant).  If I just so happened to be a vegetarian who didn't like eggplant, I'm not going to demand that I am served pasta instead.  Oh, and if you really want to go this route, then you need to accommodate all the pregnant women who can't eat unpasteurized cheese or tuna or deli meat.

I also agree - don't put up a sign.  Your friends & family already will know what vegan is.

Finally, the pay for your plate rule is a bit outdated.  I think it started off as a guideline once upon a time and the only person I've ever heard this from was my dad.  And it was him complaining for giving my cousin a large wedding gift and it was not a enjoyable wedding with really bad food (I won't go into details, but let's just say that many things done you were large breeches of etiquette).

daria24

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes! : And I think you're being a bit dramatic. <strong>Imposing (backhandedly or not) beliefs, morals, or lifestyles upon others is never appropriate IMHO</strong>. As a vast majority of people don't participate in veganism, so it may be perceived as rude to a good portion of guests. The OP indicates her and FI's families are not on board. We'll agree to disagree. 
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

<div>I cannot for the life of me understand how you think it's totally valid to serve kosher food to nonkosher guests, not serve alcohol because you are Mormon, Muslim, Baptist etc and THAT is not imposing your beliefs on your guests, yet not serving meat IS imposing your beliefs on them. For many vegans, their veganism is as closely tied to their identity as any religious affiliation. </div><div>
</div><div>For that matter having any religious ceremony for guests who do not belong to their religion would be wrong in your eyes. "Forcing" men to wear a yamulke would be imposing your beliefs on them. Having women cover their shoulders, etc. All of those things "impose" your beliefs on someone for a short amount of time.</div>

monkeysip

I just wanted to throw my hat in on the side of "do the reception you want... even a full meal... as long as you have a tasty variety"

Seriously, it's not imposing your moral beliefs on others simply to not host things you don't believe in.  It's a WEDDING... you don't have to go.  You're getting a free meal, and you're going to complain because it's vegan?  I'm not vegan or veggie at all (I LOVE my meat and my dairy)... but I recognize that people have certain beliefs, and I would have a lot more respect for them if they stuck to it and refused to pay for something they found immoral.

Same deal with alcohol... if you're morally against it (which I'm not), then I wouldn't expect you to pay for it at your wedding.  If I don't like dry weddings, I don't have to come. 

I don't think it's necessary to have a dessert reception just to please the non-vegans.  In fact, I'd much rather have a bunch of vegan food than just dessert.  (Not that there's anything wrong with a dessert reception, but I'm a piggie, and to me, more food /> less food)

MsYeck

I am from Omaha Nebraska as well and yes outside of pasta everyone in my family would be like WTF to anything vegan other than pasta. Also the Midwest unlike other parts of the country most people won't come if you start it that late, people over 40 go to bed at 9 here.

pumpkin314159

This has been such an interesting and colorful discussion and has touched on so many issues! Thanks again to all posters for your opinions and advice. Regarding reciprocity through gifts: I'm not too worried about that. SO is a strict "minimalist," meaning "hates stuff," and wants us to request donations to some charities in lieu of gifts...and don't worry, I won't pick Peta or anything like that!! I agree with Aurianna that the reception will not be about veganism. Everyone already knows I'm vegan and they'll either assume the food is vegan or they'll be too busy eating to think twice. I'm kind of hoping the second. Even though my family and future inlaws give me a hard time, I have cooked for all of them because I always bring a dish to family functions so they don't have to cook special for me and they've always been eager to try what I bring...and I've never heard so much as a grumble. Even the ones who can't help but joke "this is good...but it'd be even better with bacon" have been known to ask if they can take home the leftovers...presumably to add bacon. Lol. My idea for a dessert reception was specifically so that I could stay within my morals but not draw attention to them. I just want everyone to be happy and enjoy themselves. Thank you again for all your thoughts and great ideas. Oh, and thank you for reminding me about Isa! I actually sort of know her through a mutual friend and you're right that she would be a great resource, even if she can't cater it herself.

allychase

I feel like if I knew a devout vegan hippie like couple, not saying OP is a hippie, but just exaggerating, I wouldn't show up to their wedding expecting a heaping pile of cow meat on my plate. Sometimes its cool to try different things. As long as I'm being fed ENOUGH food and there's a decent variety I'm sure I'd be fine. My problem is when there's not a lot of food.

Simply Fated

Just quickly chiming in here...

While it is sometimes customary to "cover your plate" it's a stupid custom and I would never expect my guests to give it a second thought.


I don't think hosting a party of any kind (wedding reception, birthday party, what ever) with foods you chose for moral reasons is rude as long as you are upfront about it. I'm not saying you need to announce to people it's vegan desserts, but it is good to give a heads up to those who have allergies or food issues.
Maybe you can have something on your wedding website? Or little id cards for the desserts?

Jen4948

It's not disrespectful to anyone not to provide non-vegan items at your wedding, although it may result in non-vegans leaving earlier than they would if there were non-vegan foods served.  But you're definitely not required to provide non-vegan foods simply because others may not choose to eat vegan foods.  All the best!

ridedatbike

In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes!:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes!:In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes!: I completely disagree. I accommodated my guests who needed a kosher meal. I would never expect them to violate their beliefs by preparing a nonkosher meal for me. It's the same thing as this. A bride who is not vegan presumably has no moral or ethical issues with serving vegan friendly fare. The reverse is not always true.Posted by StageManager14This. nbsp;Also, a nonvegan can always eat a vegan meal even if it is just pasta primavera or whatever but a vegan can't eat meat and dairy, usually for moral reasons. nbsp;Would it really kill the guests to not have meat/dairy/animal products for one night?nbsp; Posted by. femme55hotmail.com[/QUOTE]

OMG first off I was automatically super excited when I saw the title! Lol high five fellow vegan! But ya agreed to this some vegans don't support the industry at all meaning not investing any money in it no matter who its for. I could be wrong but its like q dry wedding I mean you're still accommodating your guests needs its not like you're serving peanut butter to someone allergic to nuts. Im going off of what I've read so far please let me know if I've read wrong.

ridedatbike

In Response to Re:Vegan wedding! Yikes!:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vegan wedding! Yikes!:In Response to Re: Vegan wedding! Yikes! : Not having pork in no way compares to eliminating anything containing or derived from seafood, dairy, eggs, and meats. I'm not trying to be insensitive...it's just that my DH and lots of people I know don't like veggies and tofu.Posted by itzMSI think asking the bride to violate her moral belief system because some people don't like tofu is a bit much, don't you?Also there's a lot more to vegan dining that tofu and carrot sticks.nbsp; Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

Yes there is! Being vegan you really learn to cook. My MARINE the most carnivorous of them all loooooves my cooking. But ya we eat beans for protein as well and wheat gluten and all kinds of things that are very easily prepared to resemble "normal" food. Im tempted to link my pinterest I have sooooo many yummy recipes
Op! I have abides though idk how well I would work for caterers but for the top their of my cake I actually provided my own recipe along with tips :

Angelface225

I agree with PP recommendations to keep it low key, and it sounds like that's your plan.

I am allergic to gluten, so my entire menu will be gluten free and I doubt anyone will even notice. For me its about not having to worry about cross contamination on my wedding day and its the one time, outside of my house, that I can do that.